Hey everyone, this is Esateys.  Do you do what other people want you to do instead of what you want to do, ever?  When I was younger and I was in a situation where my business wasn’t really my business, but the person I was married to at the time’s business, really demanded so to speak, that we go to cocktail parties and do all of these things, that in my heart of hearts, I didn’t want to do.  Especially as frequently as we had to do them.  So, what would happen is I would end up going because that was the right thing to do, and I didn’t want to create upset in the relationship, or seem like I was bringing the business down, so I would go.

But, I wasn’t able to shift my mindset in such a way that I really enjoyed myself, at least most of the time.  So, what I would do is I’d end up feeling agitated, I’d be a little bit pissy, I wouldn’t feel like I was in a very good humor.  You know, I just wasn’t enjoying myself. Now, there’s two ways of handling this.  One is shift your mindset so you can be ok with what you’re doing.  Or, just get real, be authentic.  Because how many times have you said yes when you’ve wanted to say no?  When you continue to say yes when you really mean no, what happens is that our bodies start to really release hormones that are anger, adrenaline.  We start to create situations in our mind that says I feel like a victim, I don’t really want to do this, this is really difficult for me, I’m angry that I have to do it.  You know, all these things start going on and we literally end up with a headache, or a stomach ache.  I used to do that all the time.

Do you remember when you were a child, or maybe you have a child that will say, oh mom, I don’t want to go to school today because I’ve got a stomach ache and I think my head hurts too, and they give you this whole song and dance.  But, after doing a little detective work you find out they really want to say no to school and don’t want to say yes, because there’s something there.  Like there’s a test and they’re not ready for it, or maybe somebody’s been picking on them.  So, if you want to say no but you say yes, is it because it just really doesn’t resonate with you?  Or is there something there you’re going to have to face that you don’t necessarily want to?  It’s a really good investigative thing to look at for yourself, because when you know yourself well enough to know when you’re being authentic, and when you’re not, that’s going to make a very significant difference in how you feel internally.  Because when you are doing things you don’t want to do, that stuff starts building up, and over time it will create resentment and anger and frustration with the people that you think are making you do it, and at yourself for not being impeccable to how it is that you truly feel.

So, today you can get into a position where you re-frame it, or you decide for yourself that no, I’m just saying no.  And in that decision-making process, you will feel so much better internally.  So, I invite you to notice how many times you’re saying yes because it’s a true yes, or you’re saying yes because it isn’t, and then are you willing to flip it around?  I want to thank all of you that are sharing these videos and entering the contest by sharing, and then sending me a private message that you did share.  And I’m excited that Janet got to receive our gift for last week, Relationships and Beyond.  She says she’s never won anything before so she was so excited.  And it really, really delights me for all the feedback you are all giving me, thank you so much for that.  Oh, and don’t forget, this contest is still on, and I’ve decided that I’m going to do it every two weeks.

So, that means you will have more time, since I’m only doing two a week now, Tuesdays and Fridays, that gives you four more time to share. And the more you share, the more you’re entered, so that will be really terrific for you.  Ok, so here’s your question for today:  what would it take for me to be truly authentic for what I desire?   What would it take for me to be truly authentic to what I absolutely desire?  Until next time, mwah.  Feel the hug.

Author: Self Healing Institute