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How Stress Affects Your Relationship And What To Do About IT
We have a very special topic. It’s how stress affects your relationship and more importantly, what to do about the stress that you have and how to make it work if you can call it that in your relationship. Esateys, how are you doing?
What do you mean if you can make it work in your relationship?
The way I’m looking at it is that if we’re stressed out, we bring that into the relationship. There’s a tendency of taking that out on the other person. When I say how to make it work, it’s basically how to either de-escalate the stress so that you’re not projecting or taking it out on your partner. In the alternative, so that you can de-stress yourself and you don’t feel it so you’re not taking it out on your partner. I guarantee you if you come home stressed out or get stressed out about something that’s said in the middle of a conversation, and we’ve been there, that your partner is going to get smacked with a ball of energy if we’re not in control and aware of our stress.
Awareness as always is the first key. Recognizing that you are stressed is very important. It’s also about recognizing that the stress is absolutely from within yourself. There are some more macro or higher levels of looking at it. Then there are the practical things that are also involved with this. First of all, when you’re stressed, it’s within yourself. It is important to recognize that and to do your own inner work if you will or your own inner awareness and see what has been triggered. What is it? Let’s say somebody does something that you don’t like or you don’t appreciate. What kind of things is it that gets activated? Let’s say somebody does something they said they wouldn’t do. You rely on that and then they go ahead and do it.
What is it in you that gets triggered? What is it in you that feels whatever it feels? When you can take a look at that and become aware, it will help know one of the many core issues that we as human beings have has been activated. In this case, let’s say that the situation occurred. The thing that has activated is, “I don’t feel loved and lovable.” It starts off more superficial than that. “I don’t feel heard. I don’t feel cared for. I don’t feel respected. Ultimately, I don’t feel that I am loved and lovable.” Around that then we don’t feel safe. We don’t feel that we can trust the partner because they are doing things that they say they aren’t going to do. That creates a very unstable and very uncomfortable situation.
Ultimately, it is on the person that is having the trigger. Because we live in this third-plane three-dimensional world, there is another aspect of that that is also a gift for the other person to look at. They have been impeccable or at integrity or whatever, because their own situation is calling forth for the person who’s triggered to put it in their face. It’s always a two-way gift. The only time that it may appear not to be a two-way gift in a strong sense of the word is if nobody or one of the people doesn’t have a particularly important response to it. All triggers are based on attachment. We have attachments that things are supposed to be a certain way. All triggers are based on not feeling safe. All triggers are based on things happening seemingly without our permission. Because the personality wants safety at one of the highest levels ever when it doesn’t feel safe, it does not let its walls down. That’s where it starts getting not so great in a relationship. When a person continuously doesn’t feel safe, if they’re going to be attacked, they’re going to be criticized, they’re going to be having someone not be impeccable with their word or doesn’t follow through with integrity. What happens is little walls start to build up within us. We start, at a personality level, protecting ourselves from what it is that we don’t feel safe. This is what happens in most relationships.
Over time, pretty soon that wall is so big and there’s no repair. It becomes so thick and so intense that a person doesn’t feel like they can ever let that wall down. This, in particular, happens when one person cheats on another person. That’s a big thing in our society and in a partnership for most people. Of course, there are people that have open marriages and other things, but for the majority of people, when there is somebody who sleeps with another person, it’s a pretty big trigger for most people. For some, even though they may stay together, there’s always like a PTSD that goes on where they don’t know when that might come up again. The stress factor, to put it in this little section here, is it’s always the responsibility of the person who was triggered to look inside themselves. It is an opportunity for the person who is the seeming trigger to take a look and see what’s going on with them.
If you’re the person who’s creating the trigger, let’s say you’re not being integral or you’re creating whatever, the important thing for that person to look at is are they setting themselves up to create a separation between two people, between you and your partner? Unknowingly most of the time, it’s because they don’t feel loved and lovable and because they have their own sense of self-judgment. When somebody doesn’t feel like they’re worth loving or they’re having difficulty with themselves, a lot of times they will start doing little circumstances that they know are going to create a charge. That then satisfies their need for more separateness. It’s an interesting dynamic that goes on and it’s so subtle that the majority of people don’t know it. Yet it is the number one killer of relationships staying together and especially feeling safe together.All triggers are based on not feeling safe, on things happening seemingly without our permission. Click To Tweet
I have a couple of things I would like to point out here. First of all, you would talk about, “If you knew who I was, you wouldn’t love me.” That’s something we talked about in episode eight. If any of you haven’t gotten the chance to read that, I highly recommend it. A lot of these basic love of self-concepts that Esateys is talking about, we talked about in depth. That’s one thing. The other thing is that there’s a different kind of stress that came to my mind when you were speaking about it. Someone does something and I’m stressed because they do it. It’s in response to an overt stressor or an overt trigger. What about, let’s say someone comes home from work totally stressed out and totally pissed with his boss or work didn’t go well? That person is stressed out about his job, not necessarily about his partner. He comes home and he takes it out on and he’s angry. He finds fault and he judges. He does all those little things that you were speaking about. How do we deal with that?
That is one of the most common stressors. First of all, stress is perceived as one of the absolutes in life. Stress as a definition does not necessarily mean something negative. Stress is when the body is moved to an enhanced state of adrenaline activity. What that means is when you’re upset and stressed, your adrenal glands go off and you have a heightened sense of everything. It seems to bubble up in a “negative way.” On the other hand, stress from the body’s viewpoint, it doesn’t matter so much whether it’s “negative stress or positive stress,” the body still goes through very similar situations. In other words, you get really excited like something terrific has happened. Your heart rate goes up, your adrenals are off on yippee land and all these things are going on in the physical body.
Stress to the body means out of the buffer zone of homeostasis. One extreme higher or lower if you will. Stress by itself causes the body to experience some out of the ordinary and out of the buffer zone activity, which usually creates free radicals and other toxins that come from the hormones that are expressed. When it comes to the stress that a person is feeling inside of themselves outside of the body, more in the emotional and mental bodies, it’s something that we carry on. Let’s take your example. Somebody comes home from work and their boss did or said something that was upsetting to them. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your partner or whether it’s your boss or whether it’s the person at the stoplight. The bottom line is there is a trigger that is activated and that trigger is activating a core principle or a core experience of one of the many.
In fact, we’re going to be doing some work on that at one of the retreats that are coming up. What that means is when you get down and you recognize the way the personality and the ego are structured, it has core levels of belief systems that are going to be activated. The more aware you become and the more awake you become, the more quickly you will be able to determine which one of these core issues are being activated. The truth is it doesn’t matter. What you can know is that when you’ve got something going on, that you’re down at a core level of fear. Fear is always the bottom line. Right above that we could label it fear of being abandoned, fear of not being loved and lovable, fear of I’m not enough, fear of there isn’t enough, whatever, the whole lack principle.
You’re at work and your boss yells at you. It can activate many of these things all at once, “I might lose my job. I feel like a worm of the dust. This person was not nice to me and spoke down to me. I feel denigrated.” It could also be a shame. Maybe you did something that wasn’t up to par according to the standards that you know in your own mind you’re capable of, but you didn’t. There’s guilt and there’s shame and it could go on and on. All of those feelings and all of the emotions and all of the glandular activity that is going on is now bubbling inside of oneself. For most people, you’re not going to turn around to your boss and say, “Back off buster, you just hit one of my core principles, one of my core issues and I don’t want you to speaking to me that way,” and on and on. Instead, you take it inside and you rumble around with it. You go home, but you can’t hold it in anymore because you’re so upset and you feel so mistreated or whatever it is that you may feel. Who’s the first one that gets it?
You walk in the door and here comes your partner, “Honey, how was your day?” “My day was a bunch of crap, so and so did this and that happened. By the way, you didn’t get those errands that you said you were going to do and you didn’t do this.” Pretty soon, that person who came home with this big pile of doo-doo from their boss and the activation of their core issue is now dumping it anywhere that they can get it out. There was a very important saying, and you’ve heard me say it before if you’ve been following these blogs and that is, “We are never angry for the reason that we think.” You may think it’s because somebody stole your candy bar or you may think it’s because you had an errand that wasn’t run or somebody did something differently than they said they would do. It’s not about that. The reason for the anger is that we, at a core level, feel that we have been attacked. We have been injured or wounded at a very deep level and that can become really painful. That angry part comes up at a higher level.
First of all, it’s always up. You can take a look at that and then do some more work within yourself about knowing that your value comes from who you are and not what you do. It also gives us an opportunity to determine how we want to be with what that goes on. The more aware you become, the deeper these core principles or these core issues are going to be activated. It will give you an opportunity to go deep and clean up these things that you have still been at effect with. It is always a gift, even though in those ten seconds it doesn’t seem like it. One of the gifts is determining how you want to be with it. Rafael, you may want to interject something here before I go into how you can deal with it.
We’ve talked about two scenarios. We’ve talked about when someone comes home and they’re the aggressor or the stressor. The person who’s sitting at home had nothing to do with it, but all of a sudden gets it with it. On the other hand, as we started talking about the person who’s sitting at home may be stressed about whatever and lays it out on his partner. The thing that you said at the very beginning of the show, which was the most important piece here is awareness. I think that is really an important concept for everyone to keep in mind. The other part that I wanted to say is compassion. When we’re in a committed relationship with someone, then we know we have good days and bad days and likewise, the other person is going to have good days and bad days.Compassion goes a long way towards building the intimacy and trust of a relationship. Click To Tweet
Even though we have these stressors, if we’re aware of them and we can have the compassion that he’s a good person but he’s having a bad day or I’m a good person and I’m having a bad day, that goes a long way towards building the intimacy and the trust of the relationship. Even though it may seem, like what you were saying, “You’re never angry for the reason that you say,” it’s that you think it’s because you can’t trust someone. It’s more of resetting your mindset so that you can have the feeling of compassion and forgiveness almost, just so that the real piece of what’s going on here can play itself up. Maybe the spouse of the person who came home from work starts to delve deeper, “What happened?” Pretty soon they’re discussing it and the tension or the steam is led out of the kettle. That’s a piece that I see as being a real key to dealing with these situations.
That is a very important factor. There is always the opportunity for us as individuals to go back inside and see where we’re at with ourselves with what is going on. As I was speaking, you gave the example of the person coming home and dumping all over his partner. The partner gets to look at if they are triggered, what is it that’s inside of them? Each person takes responsibility for what it is that’s happening inside themselves because ultimately, it’s not about the other person. You can have compassion for that, but it doesn’t mean that you do not take a look inside yourself and see what’s going on so you can clean up your own stuff.
When each person’s taking responsibility for their own stuff, then it makes things move along much more rapidly and that’s what a conscious relationship is. A conscious relationship is one where you are open, honest and you’re in full disclosure of what’s going on with you and your ego isn’t going to like that. It wants to pretend that it’s the other person’s fault. That’s not going to be effective if you want to have a full-on awareness experience in life or even some people call it awakening to what’s true in life. As long as we are blaming, we are still keeping ourselves separate from everything that’s true about us at a core level.
We could go on and on with this. There are so many gems in here. If any of our audience have any questions about what we’re talking about, please write it into us and we’ll be happy to address it further. Do you have any other further things on this?
I do because we haven’t addressed what to do about it. What to do about it is an important thing and I’ve alluded to that a little bit as we’ve been speaking. The first thing is to have awareness. The second thing is when you have the awareness, the awareness is about looking inside and see what’s hurting. What injured or wounded piece of you that is upset and needs to feel like they need to take control of the circumstances? Be aware of that and that’s where the real compassion comes in. The compassion comes from self, from you towards yourself. You recognize that there’s a part inside of yourself that has felt, judged or done wrong or whatever. That’s when you go in and you nurture that part of yourself.
By that, what I mean is that you literally go inside and talk to yourself and say, “It’s okay. I get that you’re feeling upset. I respect the fact that you don’t feel safe.” You talk to yourself almost like another person. Like a parent might be speaking to a child because that little part of you, which we could call an inner child actually feels like it’s the one who is needing the support. Being compassionate with self first is very important. The other thing is that you continuously speak authentically about what you need and want in a relationship. Just because it happens to be your trigger, it does not mean that it’s not okay for you to speak to your partner about it and come up with an agreement that you will each do your best to not reactivate that, especially on purpose. That is going to build trust and the trust is a key foundational piece. When trust goes away in a relationship, it is not going to be a terrific relationship. At a very deep core level, when the trust goes, so does the relationship.
That means that if there cannot be agreements made that are followed through with and you start to rebuild trust. I’m not speaking about necessarily going out and cheating on somebody or that kind of thing. I’m speaking about making a word and following through. Do what you say you’re going to do and if you don’t do it, then you go speak to them about it. If you’re going to do something that you know your partner’s not going to like, you go speak to them about it before you do it. Don’t be sneaky and then try to figure out how to make it all better after the fact because that creates mistrust at a very high level. That’s an important piece of self-responsibility. Each person needs to be responsible for what it is that’s going on.
You may be with a partner that is open to that and you may be with a partner who is not. If you are with somebody who is not growing and being with you as you’re going on, then it’s time to reassess the relationship. Reassess where you’re at and what your goals and your ideals and all of that are. See if you’re still growing at the same rate of speed. I know that we’re going to have a question a little bit about that. I’m going to forego any more around that until we get to that question. I know that it’s an important one for us to feel like we have a sense of safety. I do invite you to write me a question about this and let me know if there’s more about this that you need to know.A conscious relationship is one where you are open, honest, and in full disclosure of what's going on with you. Click To Tweet
I’m going to reiterate one more time. First of all, you have awareness. You look inside and see what’s hurting. Secondly, you open up and maintain compassion for that part of you that is hurting. Three, you talk to your partner and say, “When such and such occurs, it is something that activates inside of me, which I am working on. If there’s anything that’s going on inside of you that could be supportive of this, that would be awesome.” If they’re not able to or they don’t, then that’s a whole another story. It’s not good, bad, right or wrong, but you don’t know if you don’t ask. The other piece of asking is to be authentic.
If you do not speak impeccably with your partner and let them know what’s going on and where your mind is headed and what it is that’s going on, then major things occur. I cannot tell you how many people I have worked with and I have coached that have not spoken the truth about what’s going on with them. One person, in particular, was this man married to this woman for eight, ten years and he was doing several things that were so upsetting to his partner. She never said anything. She didn’t speak about it and the wall kept getting bigger. She kept feeling less safe and less trusting until one day he came home and he saw that the closets were empty.
The house was there but she packed her things and taken the kids and moved out. No notice, no nothing because she couldn’t find the courage and the strength to speak her truth to him to even see if there was something they could work out. She just reached her limit and then said, “I’m done,” to herself and walked out. He was totally stunned that this had occurred. He had no clue because they were not communicating. Even if it’s hard and scary, you’ve got to communicate with your partner with what’s going on in the cleanest and most profound way that you possibly can. It’s not about blaming even though you may say, “When such and such occurs, this is how I feel.” It’s not like, “You made me do this.” It is how you are experiencing the circumstances and let them know that this is a very tender part for you.
If they choose to acknowledge and work on their own stuff, which is going on inside of them because it’s never a one-way street, then that’s great. If they don’t know, they can’t do anything to help clean it up and therefore the relationship will end almost always. You will be living with somebody you don’t even know. I have another couple that I’m coaching and they live in the same house. They do not speak. They don’t have any interaction about anything. They stay together because of monetary situations, but there’s nothing between them. They’re like dead to each other. That’s not the way most people in their heart of hearts want to live. You will find that if you’re impeccable, you are honest and you are authentic with what’s going on with you, then that’s going to make a very big difference.
The last thing I’ll say about this is when you allow the feelings that come from the triggers to come up and you just feel them, you don’t deny them, you don’t project them, you don’t do anything with them except feeling them in your physical body. What you’ll notice without the storyline and without the judgment, they will be intense and be very hard sometimes to be with but when you do that, they pass through very quickly. It’s when we hold onto them and we keep on reiterating that in our mind and we start making stories up around it that it becomes very lethal. Take the story out of what your mind is recycling and be with the feelings in the body. You will find that you do not hold on to it. That’s freedom because you are living in a state of non-resistance.
You’re allowing yourself to feel whatever you feel and there’s no feeling that’s not okay. If you get really angry, then be really angry. Let your body flare up and feel it. Any other feeling that comes up, you let it come up and you take the story out of it and you feel the sensations in your body and quickly, it will move through you. It’s quite fascinating when you do that. Those are some things that you can do to practice with. If this is a big thing for you and you notice that you’re having difficulty, then call me, talk to me and we’ll set something up. We can have a discussion to see if maybe some deeper work is available for you or what would be appropriate for you at that point in time.
I agree with everything you said. It was very powerful. The things to do about it is a good list to make some notes of and keep in front of you. We’re going to have the Ask E section where we have a question from one of our viewers that is very similar to what we’re talking about here. Esateys, I wanted to ask you before we go to the question. This question came up for me around what you were speaking about. When you were talking about the trigger and you were talking about the degree of feelings and all of those things, when is the best time to have that conversation and to have that expression with your partner? Is it when you’re triggered or when you let it simmer some?
It depends on the circumstances and it also depends on your level and degree of awareness. If you are going to go off the handle and just attack, scream and yell at the person and have no responsibility for it, then it’s better not to flare up and rain all over the other person because things that aren’t even true are frequently said. If you’re pretty awake and aware, then if you stay with how you personally feel and you’re sharing what core issues have been activated within yourself responsibly, then that’s also supportive. It is not necessarily about having to say something in those moments or perhaps even saying anything at any given moment. If you are drawn to it, the key is you communicate responsibly and without making the other person wrong and make them “pay” for what goes on.At a very deep core level, when the trust goes, so does the relationship. Click To Tweet
I did hear you say that if you don’t say anything, it could build and build and then have other consequences.
It can and some of the things that you can do is you can go journal about it. You can go scream in a pillow at a high level. You can get in the car and talk to yourself or scream or express. You can go into deep breaths and let your mind do whatever it needs to do as you breathe it out and you let it go. There are other ways of dissipating energy than just speaking about it because a good majority of people do not know how to communicate effectively and responsibly.
That’s another subject and we’ll get to that one too. Let’s go to our question. This question was from Micah. Thank you so much for the question, “I know that you said that we should not change the person we are in a relationship with. I feel like my boyfriend is holding me back. I have plans for the future and I can see that he does not. I feel like I have outgrown him. I don’t know what to do. Thank you.”
Micah, first of all, I want to thank you for being very patient. Micah wrote this question to us several episodes ago and she had been very patient for us to be able to fit it in now. It’s a powerful question because many people are coming up against this. To be honest, it’s usually the woman who feels like she’s outgrowing the man and I’m not a sexist or any of that kind of stuff. It’s just that in my experience and not always, but many times women are more passionate about their spiritual growth and their self-responsibility than men. Because of that, they seem to open up with a lot more awareness factors. I think that women have the advantage of having a more highly astute sensory section in their brains and in their minds and bodies. As mothers, we’re wired for motherdom, what that means is that you’re very connected to your child.
You have X-ray hearing and smell and all these things to be in a constant state of protection for your child. Because of that, their awareness is about the things that are seen, but also things that are unseen. Women are usually more intuitive and more connected. They know when their child is hurting, for example, but it doesn’t always stop there. Based on that, what is happening in our collective consciousness now is that women are waking up quite rapidly. They’re becoming much more aware and being cognizant about things that perhaps their partner hasn’t been at the same rate of speed. Because of that, many times they seemingly outgrow their partner. That means that if their partner is not moving at the same rate of speed, which I want to interrupt myself, it’s not like we’re moving anywhere, but we think we are. We’re pretending we are.
What that means is that we are dealing with life differently than we used to. When we reached that place where we are seeing and perceiving life differently and our triggers are different than they were before, then what happens is the partner that you’re with may not be experiencing that as well. You have two options. One is you recognize this and you allow the relationship to go away. You line up with somebody who is more passionate about their own spiritual growth that is willing to make commitments to themselves in their life in a more profound way than the person that you were with. The other thing that you can do is to use this as a tool for your own personal growth or awakening or awareness. Know that when you get triggered because they are not the way you would like them to be, that you can use that to support yourself and becoming more unconditional and a different kind of person than you used to be.
The majority of people find that it’s hard to do that. Many people will dissolve the relationship or change the way the relationship is structured because they are needing someone that is more aligned to where it is that they are. Knowing your true core values, knowing what your priorities are and knowing what theirs are and having them know what theirs are so they can be discussed is important. The bottom line is to trust your gut. Have a conversation with your partner. Talk about the things that are very important to you and find out at what degree of importance they are to that person. Let’s say your personal development and your self-growth is at a ten and theirs is at a three. You either need to be with yourself and continue doing that and many people do that by the way.
The other option is to say, “I want to be with somebody that’s a little bit closer to where I am.” In many ways that makes it a lot easier. In some ways, it makes it a little more challenging because sometimes they’ll push you beyond where it is that you thought you wanted to be. It’s interesting to see how it comes up. You have to determine and intuit from within yourself what feels the best and know ultimately that you can make a mistake. The universe is always conspiring to make your life more awesome than you could ever dream or imagine. Whatever decision you make will be the correct one. Always trust in that and know that every path leads to the same place, which is joy, which is not happening because on every level you already are there, but we’re pretending that we aren’t. If that didn’t mess up your mind, then keep listening because it’s important that you go beyond where it is that your mind actually is familiar.It's okay to feel what it is that you feel. Click To Tweet
Part of my work is to help you stretch out of the box of “normalcy” and stretch yourself to a new level of you, a new level of awareness, a new level of growth. Sometimes it means that you hear things that don’t make a bit of sense and not allow yourself to resist that. Just say, “What if that were true? What if one day I understood that? What if it didn’t matter? What if it was okay?” Start asking yourself questions that will allow you to relax and let the universe work with you to become all you’re capable of being. You’ve all heard the term the best you. That’s what it is that we’re speaking about.
I have one question for Micah and for Esateys. Since we don’t have Micah here, Esateys please answer it. My question is what are you saying is not in sync? Is it your spiritual or your personal growth or your physical or plans for your future in terms of career or some of those things? What isn’t in sync? Is there a basic? Are you on the same grounds spiritually or connectedly or is it more than you’re going in different directions from what you do on a day-to-day basis?
It could be any or all of those things. It’s not one or the other. Your core values need to be aligned. If you know your core values and the other person knows their core values and if you don’t, then google it. Both of you write them down individually and see how aligned you are. If you are not aligned with the way you think about money or you’re not aligned with your spiritual principles or you’re not aligned with what you want to do in your life as you proceed. Are you aligned with having children or not having children? Are you aligned with how you would be with yourself and each other under certain circumstances? It’s important to at least have a fair amount of them aligned if you want to have a more copacetic relationship. Remember what we said from day one on this show, relationships are the most profound mechanism for self-development that you could ever dream or hope for. Regardless, whatever it is that’s going on is going to be a support for you if you look at it that way and if you live it from that perspective.
Thank you and thanks for that question, Micah. I appreciate it. We’re going to be jumping into the question of the day and we’re going to be looking at unlimited possibilities.
Here’s a question that I invite you to contemplate until we connect again. If you write this down and you read it every day, just rhetorically. Remember, it’s not about expecting some magical answer from the sky or from within yourself. You might but most likely you will not. It’s something that you give your mind to do to run off like a Google Search. Your mind will run off and look for answers to these very powerful questions that we give you every week. This week’s question is, what if I allowed all feelings to flow through me without resistance? What’s important about that is when you have a feeling, know that it’s okay to feel the feelings. Remember, I spoke about taking the story out of it and just feel the sensations in your body. When you master that, when you learn how to do that, you will find that nothing is being held on to and you will move to an entirely new level of awareness and a sense of joy that you didn’t have prior to that. Ask yourself, what if I allow all my feelings to flow through me without resistance? It’s okay to feel what it is that you feel. That’s our program. I’m very excited about the things that we’ve got to share now.
It flowed and I’m so happy that we got that question because it was perfect for what we did. We have so much more to share with you. We hope that you’re enjoying this. Please tell your friends, ask them to subscribe and if you haven’t subscribed, please do that. We will be here every week. We publish a new episode every Tuesday and as always, if you have any questions or would like to talk with Esateys, email her at Esateys@Esateys.com.
Thank you, Micah, and many others who have been sending in their feedback and their questions. Those things are helpful for us because it helps guide us in the direction that you would like to hear us speak about. Your feedback is very important. Your willingness and your desire to invite other people to come is very supportive. Can you imagine what it would be like if your relationships all turned into conscious relationships? That you could actually speak to people in a different way than the majority of people speak to each other and to themselves. That’s what this is about. You make a difference in the world by making a difference in you. Thank you so much for being with us. We so appreciate you. Feel a hug.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
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