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Confidence is not something you attain by night; self-confidence is, first of all, an inner attitude you choose to develop, a belief in your abilities and your personal purpose. Confidence is the imminent result of accepting your own self, of coming to peace with your present, and finding ways you wish to change your future. You have the power within you. We all do. You just don’t know it yet. This article is going to be pack with ways to build confidence and showing you how to reinvent yourself.
You may find yourself at a stage in your life when you look at yourself, and you feel lost, like you don’t know where your life is headed. You deeply feel that you yearn for more, but something stops you from going after your dream, something’s preventing you from accomplishing what you long for. And that something is a lack of self-confidence.
But the world is your oyster, and you are the master of your fate. You can change your attitude and build up your inner confidence. If you are wondering how to build self-confidence, that’s an achievable purpose. We’ve all been there.
Overcoming your fear of failure
One of the main reasons we fail to trust ourselves is not letting go of previous setbacks and negative experiences we have gone through in our past. But you need to acknowledge that setbacks don’t prove that you failed – on the contrary, you need to perceive them as useful experiences that helped you come to the place you are today.
For instance, when a child learns to ride a bicycle, he won’t be able to ride it at first – he might fall off a couple of times, but that only makes him learn that he needs to keep his balance, or when to use the breaks and so on.
In the same way, whenever we try something new, at first, we won’t excel at it, because some beginnings are tough, but in time, we learn from our mistakes and come closer to our dreams. It’s all in the attitude.
Use your setbacks as means to get closer to your purpose. Think of them as learning opportunities.
Overcoming your fear of failure is essential – because this is what’s stopping you from achieving the peak of your performance. You need to perceive setbacks positively, as part of your life and learn to embrace them as basic learning steps in the process of building confidence.
Focus on your purpose
Your future is unknown. And that’s how it’s supposed to be. This is what makes life an Adventure!
Our lives are filled with both negative and positive experiences, but what you need to bear in mind is the greater purpose you have for your life, the bigger picture. Ask yourself: What do I want and where am I headed?
Let’s say you’re traveling to a new destination you’ve never been before. You’re genuinely excited about what you’re going to experience, the new things you’re about to see, the new people you’re about to meet and still you may go through the nervousness that comes when traveling to some place new.
You may not know every tiny detail about the destination. You need to take the time to discover the beautiful surroundings, truly enjoy them and look forward to the excitement that is associated with traveling to a new place.
This will help you forget about the foggy, unknown things that might occur on the road because you concentrate on the positive things. And this is one of the basic steps when building self-confidence – focusing on your purpose and what brings you joy.
The road may be long, may be foggy, but you will get there. Because you are stronger than you think. You’re just about to find out.
Don’t compare yourself to others
Comparison can kill your confidence. Don’t compare your background with other people’s circumstances. You don’t know everything about the person you’re comparing yourself to. You don’t know the trials he/she has gone through.
We shouldn’t compare our setbacks with other people’s successes – this is often something that brings us down. Most of the time, we don’t know the entire story someone is going through, but we assume that their success happened overnight, and we tend to compare that with our previous setbacks and get discouraged.
Set small goals
One way to build confidence is to set small goals. Write them down and check them off when you have accomplished them. Make sure that they are short-term and very attainable.
Writing down five things that you are grateful for every day is very impactful to our self-confidence. The energy of gratitude lifts us up and we are able to see things from a different perspective.
Another powerful exercise with gratitude is to everyday write at least three things that you did or completed. It might be something as simple as having brushed your teeth.
You could write it simply. A few examples are: “I’m so grateful that I completed reading that article than I needed for my work.” Or, “I’m so grateful that I got the kids off to school on time today.” Or, “I really appreciate having made dinner that was healthy and yummy.” It can be around any subject.
The key is to really recognize that there are hundreds of things that you do in a day that are powerful and are great accomplishments. The difficulty is most people take them for granted and do not ever acknowledge or celebrate how incredible they truly are.
Focus on yourself and your wonderful qualities. Concentrating on others will only make you feel bad about yourself. I had a friend that had a negative opinion of himself; he wanted to launch a business, but it seemed like each time he tried, something had to go wrong.
He got discouraged, as he compared his situation with another successful entrepreneur. What he later found out is that particular person had gone through similar situations and trials before achieving that great success.
When he realized that, he acknowledged how harmful it was for him to compare his situation with other people’s situations. What we see isn’t always true, as everything is subjective, and our perceptions might deceive us and harm our self-confidence.
Be aware that our perceptions come from what we have been taught or learned from others. This does not make them accurate or real. Stay with yourself and be compassion and gentle with yourself. You are doing great and growing, even when you don’t see or think that is so.
Know yourself and your real potential
The road towards achieving self-confidence is, first of all, an inner journey of self-knowledge and discovering your strengths and capabilities. While you don’t know what lies ahead, you will get the chance to uncover your own self, and this will allow you to build confidence as the main personality trait.
We get stuck in our daily routine and don’t pay attention to the real person we truly are. We aren’t happy, but still, we don’t do anything about it, it seems like we’ve settled.
Don’t settle for anything less than what you want. You have it within you to change your attitude and your life. Take a leap!
Building confidence will allow you to make your dreams come true
You may ask yourself – is it really necessary to build confidence? Perhaps it’s not for me. I want to tell you that self-confidence will get you places you never thought you’d get. The right attitude can be the key to accomplishing great performance and making your dreams come true.
Don’t compare yourself to others, always admit to your mistakes, make them learning opportunities, and don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself from time to time. Life’s a journey you should truly enjoy!
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
For more information, go to esateys.com.