Have you Felt Love and Respect in Your Relationship?
A relationship has many features that contribute to its strength and success. Some of them are mandatory. Trust, honesty, love, and respect are vital qualities that are essential for a healthy relationship. Sometimes, a relationship can survive without one of the qualities. However, love and respect are a must in every relationship. While the former comes easily, the latter may not.
Love can be self-centered. Sometimes, what is perceived to be love is an expression of self-interest and a search for pleasure. But love without respect is a dangerous thing. What does it mean to respect someone? It means you understand that the person is a unique individual and do not try to control or change them. Love and respect are important in every relationship, whether parent-child or husband-wife.
It is not enough to be loved, you must be respected as well. For your relationship to last, it must be built on a foundation of deep love and respect. Only when you genuinely respect someone can you truly love them.
The Importance of Love and Respect in a Relationship
Research has shown that men and women perceive love and respect differently. However, everyone desires to be loved and respected. Love is tempered by respect. While it adds bliss to relationships and creates bonds that help a relationship to survive hard times, it is not all a relationship needs. Everyone needs – and deserves – respect from those closest to them.
You may have heard the common phrase, “a woman needs love and a man needs respect.” Could it be true? Sure, men and women see love and respect differently, but both need to be loved and respected. It is believed that when men are respected, they respond with love and when women are loved, they respond with respect. For example, when a man is disrespected, he may react in an unloving way – he may become aggressive. When a woman feels unloved, she may show disrespect by being sarcastic and nagging.
It is important to note that there is no way you can truly love your partner if you do not respect them. However, it is possible to respect someone you do not love (like your boss at work). Love and respect go hand in hand in relationships. To make your relationship work, you need to have a precise definition of what love and respect mean to you and your partner. Many relationship problems arise because partners have not defined what love and respect mean to them. As you build your relationship, do not focus on selfish motives. Making sacrifices for each other is part and parcel of respect. Keep in mind that a great relationship has no winners or losers, it has compromisers. You will win at times and lose at times.
Understanding and fully integrating respect into your relationship can be challenging. That is why couples are encouraged to attend love and respect conferences to learn more about how they can incorporate the aspect into their relationships.
Love and Respect Quotes
Numerous quotes have been created – and are still being created – on love and respect. They show that there is a close connection between the two. Below are a few of the most popular love and respect quotes.
“Respect is love in plain clothes.”– Frankie Byrne
“Love is all about mutual respect, apart from attraction.” – George Best
“Respect is one great expression of love.” – Unknown
“Without respect, love is lost.” – Unknown
“Love is the other name for respect. If you can’t respect your loved ones, then you don’t deserve to be loved.” – Unknown
Love and Respect Book
Many people have come to the realization that love and respect coexist. Due to this, there are numerous love and respect books that have been written to help couples embrace the two. In addition, love and respect conferences have been started to help couples build a culture of love and respect within their relationships.
Dr. Emerson Eggerichs is one of the most influential voices in the fields of love and respect. In his book, Love and Respect, he uses ancient writings and extensive psychological research to reveal the power of unconditional love and respect and how couples can reap the benefits of both. This book is one of the best practical books and a must-read for couples who want to get their relationships back on track. After it became a huge success, Dr. Eggerichs released a sequel, The Love and Respect Workbook, which can be used by individuals, couples, and groups. Read both books and enhance your relationship.
Seek Respect As You Seek Love – and Give Them In Return!
The feeling of being loved is the best and a necessary ingredient in any relationship, but respect is what keeps the relationship going. Respect is crucial for real and lasting relationships. In fact, relationship experts say that when one is looking for love, they should also look for respect.
Love alone cannot withstand the challenges of a relationship. Respect ensures that your physical and emotional needs are met and it gives you a sense of security. When a person respects you, it means that they have decided to overlook your flaws and that they value you as a person. Respect in a relationship will always ensure that your interests are well considered.
Love and respect don’t come easily, you have to work hard for them. You cannot demand to be loved and respected while you don’t give love and respect in return. So, go ahead and give love. Show that you care by being supportive, attentive, and above all, loving. Show respect by cheering on your partner and being proud of them. Create a solid relationship that will be the envy of many. Your life will be filled with joy and happiness.
“Respect is what we owe; love, what we give” – Philip James Bailey
Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
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