Do Your Relationships Need Help?
Relationships are a vital part of our lives. They bring us a lot of happiness and satisfaction. Solid connections with family members, friends, and colleagues add to our health and productivity. We depend on relationships for support, guidance, love, and advice. Human beings are naturally sociable; they enjoy the company of others and long for positive interactions. To a certain extent, relationships are just as important to us as the food we eat. This is why our happiness and health are affected when our relationships go wrong.
But great relationships don’t happen by chance. They need time, effort, and good social skills. Sometimes, relationships break down and wreak havoc in people’s lives. They feel disappointed, lonely, and unsure. If you feel like your relationship is headed for the rocks, take measures. Go for relationship therapy and turn your relationship around.
What Is Relationship Therapy?
Relationship therapy means using communication to assess and solve problems. It is done by a professional therapist who communicates with individuals so as to help resolve conflicts in their relationships. The therapist helps families, couples, colleagues, and other persons who need to learn how to handle disagreements, to communicate effectively, or to deal with underlying issues that affect their relationships.
Relationship therapy usually takes about 12 sessions although this can vary greatly. Many, many years ago I went to a therapist for my first marriage. I knew within 2 sessions what I needed (and wanted) to do.
The therapist sets clear goals that should be accomplished by the end of the therapy. He meets with individuals and talks about issues they may be having that influence their relationships – like poor communication, substance abuse, and personality conflicts. The people getting the therapy discuss the issues that affect the relationship most. The therapist then offers solutions for them to act out. He also assigns exercises to clients that they must complete after every session. For instance, he can tell individuals to explain to each other how specific behaviors make them feel. The exercises given differ depending on the therapist. Each therapist has specific methods they use in their practice.
A therapist gives an objective, unbiased assessment of a relationship. They do not pick sides but instead provide action plans on how to make a relationship functional and healthy. In some instances, one individual may suffer from an emotional or mental problem that affects his relationships. During therapy, a therapist must recognize the underlying issue and offer useful treatment options. They must also tell the other people in the relationship how to cope with that person. A therapist must customize procedures and advice for each case.
How Does Relationship Therapy Differ From Relationship Counseling?
While therapy and counseling mean different things, they are frequently used to describe a similar activity. Therapy refers to discussing your situation with a therapist in order to understand personal issues such as feelings, mood, thinking, and behavior. For example, therapy can help you to cope with the death of a loved one or to communicate better with your colleagues.
Counseling helps a person to understand and solve issues in order to cope with emotional or mental stressors. Generally, counseling seeks to find solutions to pressing problems like learning how to positively communicate. It can range from short-term to long-term. In some cases, people who go for counseling are aware of their problems.
Both therapy and counseling involve discussing issues with a trained professional. Many therapists and counselors are licensed by the states where they work.
Child Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT)
This therapy is an evidence-based intervention for treating kids experiencing a myriad of emotional, behavioral, and social difficulties. It is founded on the belief that a parent-child relationship is profound, authentic and the ideal medium for therapy. Caregivers are taught how to use play as a therapeutic tool at home. Child parent relationship therapy perfectly complements play therapy. It focuses on the child-caregiver relationship in order to create positive interactions and enhance communication.
Therapists use both process-oriented and didactic approaches in order to streamline the formation of a relational medium between parent and child. The process focuses on goals, principles, skills, and methods used in CPRT.
Child parent relationship therapy teaches caregivers to relate with their children in a therapeutic manner through play sessions and instruction. Parents learn how to respond to their children’s feelings, how to boost their self esteem, how to listen reflectively, and how to set limits. The objectives of the therapy are to help children develop their self-confidence, problem-solving skills, and competency. They are also taught to trust their parents more and to love them.
Imago Relationship Therapy (IRT)
This therapy was invented by Dr. Harville Hendrix. The term Imago means image in Latin. Imago relationship therapy is based on the belief that there is a link between early childhood experiences and the frustrations experienced in adult relationships. For instance, if you were abandoned as a child, you may never want to be alone as an adult. Similarly, if you felt smothered, lonely, or criticized, these feelings will come up in your relationship.
Most individuals face only a few core issues in their partnerships. But these issues crop up again and again, overshadowing all the good features of the relationship. Because of this, people start wondering if they chose the right partner. The good news is that when you understand the other person’s childhood wounds and feelings, you can change your relationship for the better.
Imago relationship therapy is a loving and effective approach to bridging the gap between you and your partner. You are able to talk about what really matters – what you need to feel cared for, loved, and safe. It can help you to ask for what you need from your partner and give them what they need. You can change your disagreements into opportunities for growth and healing. As a result, you are able to connect more lovingly and deeply.
This is just one form of therapy and depending upon your therapist you will be introduced to and given several different ways of perceiving and experiencing your present relationship issues.
Ideally, your therapist will help bring self-reliance, self-responsibility and a more well-rounded perspective of both sides of the situation.
The majority of relationship issues are focused on being victimized by the other person. When you speak to each person individually you find that sometimes, although in slightly different words, they are saying the exact same thing. They actually feel just like the other person feels.
It is very helpful to have this recognition and be able to utilize certain tools and techniques to help support the shift of this misconception.
Go For Relationship Therapy
All relationships face challenges at one time or another. Stressors, no matter how small, can have a negative impact on a relationship. Major ones can destabilize the relationship. If you’ve been thinking about relationship counseling or simply want to improve your relationship, visit a relationship therapy center. Research shows that relationship counseling has a success rate of about 70%. It can make a big difference in your relationship.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
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