Honesty is the core point in maintaining a healthy relationship. Without honesty, there is no trust, and without trust, there’s no safety. If you do not have safety there is no joy and no true connection. If you wish to benefit from an authentic connection with your partner then continue to read this article, it will be helpful. I will share with you the keys to fostering honest relationships.
You may accomplish Connection in your relationship, but it requires more than just wishing it – you have to make it happen. Your relationship’s future is in your own hands. In this article, we will deal with how to make this a reality in your own life.
Fostering intimacy with your partner
Everyone longs for reaching a high level of intimacy with their partner. Who doesn’t yearn to have someone to share their hopes and dreams with? Everyone craves support and encouragement from the behalf of their partner. Especially in this fast-paced world in which no one seems to really care about your feelings, you desire someone to care about you – someone you can feel safe around.
Nonetheless, intimacy cannot be forced, just as love cannot be forced. But when you feel that you are into a committed relationship and things are moving forward, then you know you are ready to open yourself and develop emotional intimacy with your partner.
A real relationship requires so much more than love, but in order to genuinely enjoy the fulfillment of a truly satisfying connection you have to acknowledge the importance of honesty and intimacy.
Get to know yourself
Knowing yourself is extremely important in a committed, stable relationship. It is more important than you might think. This doesn’t mean that the focus is entirely on you.
The point is that in order to genuinely open yourself and be honest with your partner, you have to accept yourself and learn to acknowledge both your flaws and qualities.
Get acquainted with your hopes, dreams and wishes – what’s your purpose in life? What’s the purpose of your relationship? Are you scared to open up? You might wish to accomplish intimacy with your partner, but you feel stuck.
Past relationships might have made you form a mechanism of defense against achieving closeness and prevent you from being the open, honest person you might wish to be.
Just analyze yourself and note what hinders you from having and fostering an honest relationship. It might be because of negative past experiences or perhaps you feel insecure about your own feelings and assume that you won’t be understood. Are you afraid of being hurt?
See the reasons why you act in certain irrational ways, and look for solutions, and remember, any past experience can be mended with a lot of patience and determination.
Invest in spending time together – open communication
It is significant when you spend time with your partner. Just quiet conversations, in calm settings are perfect to get to truly know each other. Pay attention to your partner’s behavior and focus on your reactions as well. What sorts of feelings are you experiencing?
Again, self-awareness is important. You have to see if your reactions match your partner’s reactions – are you on the same page? Is your partner honest with you?
Fostering honesty in relationships is achieved by engaging in conversations regarding all kinds of subjects, especially personal ones. And keep in mind to steer clear of judgmental reactions, instead, try being understanding and receptive.
Analyze your partner’s personality, talk about a wide range of subjects in order to see if you share common interests. Of course we all know how opposites attract each other, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t supposed to share any interests whatsoever.
You have to share passions and interests in order to have something to do together or talk about.
And trust your gut, sometimes when a person’s right, we instinctively sense it.
In order to foster an honest relationship, you have to grow emotionally; this relationship has to challenge you – to know yourself, and to know your partner. If you don’t grow together in your relationship, the odds are that you will grow apart.
You have to bear in mind that in order to grow together on an emotional level, maintaining honesty in a relationship is never optional. But on the contrary, it lies at the very roots of every healthy connection.
There are cases when someone asks their partner a rather personal question, instead of saying the truth, so he/she ends up inventing a lie in order to get out of actually having to answer it. This is definitely not the way to establish a healthy bond.
The importance of communication in a relationship should not be underrated at any costs. So, what is it you should do if you don’t wish to answer a certain question because you still feel insecure about the state of the relationship?
How to be honest when you don’t feel comfortable with opening up is a powerful question. If you truly don’t feel like you can talk about certain things with your partner, always, always be honest. Simply affirm that you’re not ready to open up on certain matters. Fostering an honest relationship means you have to be true with your partner regardless of the circumstances.
If your partner asks you something that you are not ready to speak about tell the truth about that. You can say something like, “I appreciate you asking about that and I am too uncomfortable to talk about it right now. As soon as I am I promise to bring it back up. Please understand that this has nothing to do with you. It is about me being at ease with this subject. Thanks for supporting me in this.”
In a committed relationship, after your partner has proven to be honest with you and reliable, the next step is to open up. Being open to each other will develop a deeper level of intimacy and trust. After having left your guard off, you’ll feel genuinely fulfilled to acknowledge that you connect with your partner on a deeper, emotional level.
At first, it may be hard to open up, as it necessitates a mixture of vulnerability and confidence. Leaving your guard off means admitting that you’re not perfect, but it also means committing to be a better person.
This profound state of your relationship can be achieved only by fostering honesty as one of the basic principles to abide by. Honesty and open communication are the two focal pillars that guarantee you the cultivation of an authentic connection.
Feeling supported and appreciated for what you are is what a healthy relationship should feel like. Now, you have the proper foundation for further growing and developing together as a couple.
A few last reminders:
- If you expect your partner to be honest and open, you need to be as well.
- Don’t wait for your partner to open up first. Take a breath and share openly and honestly.
- Be compassionate with yourself and your partner when either of you are feeling vulnerable.
- Create a safe ‘space’ or environment for open communication by holding all judgments. Instead, be kind and soft hearted. When it is your turn, you will appreciate the same.
- Set agreed upon rules to have a safe space to share scary things and be sure you both know what they are and that you both agree to them.
Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
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