Are You Feeling Overwhelmed And Overloaded Lately?
Have you ever been in a contemplative place where you are thinking about how overwhelmed you are? How freaked out you are? How completely overloaded you are in pretty much every area of your life? Do you wake up in the morning and for about 10 seconds you feel good and then all of a sudden your mind kicks in and you start thinking about this and that and you wonder if you will ever get things done? You mind is going through a three or four page list of things you have to do. This is a fairly common experience. You may also find that when you go to bed at night, the same occurs.
PROBLEMS SLEEPING I have been coaching many people who tell me they are having some trouble sleeping. When we get a little deeper about what is going on, they start to tell me about their life, health, children, money, etc…all of the things that are going on. And the 322 things they need to do for each of those categories each day. It is pretty ominous when you consider the amount of things we do in a 24 hour period.
What happens is we take that to bed with us. It interferes with our sleep. We may not sleep at all, or fitfully or we may wake up and then go back to sleep. We may have reoccuring dreams or nightmares. There are many different things that go on because we are completely overloaded with stress. Stress comes from many different things. One of the things it comes from is being unable to process the amount of data and the amount of information that we need to process in a daily basis that we feel responsible for.
Where does all of this come from? First, it comes from scarcity. A very core deep issue is there is not enough. Not enough what? Time? Energy? The bottom line is it’s not enough. We feel like there is not enough of me to get that handled. Just a few moments ago I wrote an email to someone who gave a beautiful feedback about a retreat we just did. Some of the things we are working on are game changers and special projects. She was commenting about how awesome she felt that they were and how they were going to be supportive for so many people. I wrote back, I appreciate you feedback. Now if I can just squeeze in an extra day in my week, I can duplicate myself, I think I will be able to do half of that. I didn’t say it quite that extensively but pretty much. Bottom line is I am speaking about this today because I am in your seat. I am in my own seat doing the same exact thing because I have realized that the number one issue that I personally have right now is feeling like there is more to do than there is time or me to do it. Have you ever felt that way? I am pretty sure you have or you wouldn’t be listening to this. Let me tell you what I actually have come to recognize and how it is we can all plow right on through it and master this. I implemented some of these things a bit ago and they are actually working for me. I am going to share those with you in a few moments.
Before I do, I want to go back a bit. I am not a history person. Rafael has asked me many times, did you really pass history class? How did you get through that? The bottom line is I didn’t retain much of what I took. I did pass my classes and the bottom line is history is not that important to me. I will tell you about cowboys and Indians. I grew up on a farm. I want you to know that grow up in a certain frame of mind. A certain frame of reference. If you go back and you are older than 20 or older than 30, you might realize that technology is not the same as it is now. We didn’t have the computers, the cell phones, all of the things that we do and take for granted now. The younger generation really takes it for granted. They don’t know what it was like to handwrite an invoice or make a call on a party line with 6 or 8 other people on the line. It was much different. People died earlier because they didn’t have the things we have now. It’s been bitter sweet. Then and now because the things we didn’t have then that we have now are now causing other issues.
Here is something deep. The world continues to have good and bad and right and wrong and up and down because we live in a polarity based system. We live in a binary system. As soon as one thing gets fixed, we will have the opposite occur. It’s like the game called Whack a Mole. You hit the mole and then another one pops up. That is how life works. You fix one thing and then something comes up to oppose that. That is the way it’s meant to be here. It’s not wrong or broke. It’s ok the way it is. So what does that mean for us? It means that we must learn how to be with what is. Once you really get that, your forever will be changed. Again, learn to be with what is without resistance and you will be free. YOu will never have stress or issues. You won’t walk around feeling like the world needs to do something different. You won’t have to change your life to be happy. You will be darn joyful. Getting there, not as easy as it appears to be. So let’s go back a moment and talk about polarity.
Since we know and hopefully are in agreement, for every something, there is the opposing something. For every action there is a reaction. That occurs. Based on that, we must learn if we really want to know joy, and to master overload. We must learn how to be with what is without resistance. It means we be ok with whatever is occurring. When we are ok, then we are not going to feel overwhelmed or overloaded. Your mind may be saying whatever. I need to know how to get my to do list complete. To get this list complete, we have to look back a bit and look at some of the core things. I always want to know the cause. Where does it come from? What can I do at a core level to make things different? That is one of the reasons I went into alternative medicine. I am licensed in traditional. But if you don’t get to what causes the symptoms, you will have a repetitive issues. I study herbs and homeopathy. I became very excited because the holistic approach allowed me to get to the cause than the traditional modality. I still think traditional medicine is awesome. I still use it when needed.
We have this thing going on. We have already covered that we have a basic principle on the planet. Scarcity principle. There is not enough of me, you, money, love, time, etc. We are in a position where there is nothing we are going to do to make this different in the outer world that will change the polarity base system we live in. This planet is based on a duality. Got it? That means that the only thing that can change is you. The only thing that you are going to be able to do to find the joy to master the overwhelm is to look at how you are framing and perceiving it. Take a breath because in a few minutes I am going to give you some tools. I want you to understand that if you do not take full responsibility for your overwhelm and for your overload and any other adjectives, then you are going to have a hard time. Overload and overwhelm immediately puts us into a place where we feel victimized. Victimized. The minute we feel like something is happening out of our control we feel victimized. Powerless. Impotent. We feel out of control. What happens when we feel victimized and out of control? We feel crummy. Our energy level goes down. We get depressed. We project things on other people because we don’t like the way we feel. If we yell at someone else, somehow we will feel better. It’s silly of course. But that is what personalities do. When you look at this you can recognize that there is nothing nobody can do to save you. There are some open hearted people in the world who care but for the most part, ultimately, it’s up to you. You get to decide about being happy, sad, mad, glad, overwhelmed, overloaded, or not. You are powerful. You are amazing. You have one thing that no one else in the entire world has, you have absolute free will and free choice about how you perceive and be with whatever is going on in the world. Maybe you can’t change exactly what is going on. Can you stop the war? Can you stop the sun from shining or not shining? Most of the time you will find certain things you have zippo control over. Based on that you start to recognize that things just kind of happen sometimes and when you come to peace with that fact, you can have peace. In most people’s minds will say, that person is yelling at me or doing that to me. You have a right to decide what you want to do. You are always empowered. Always in the ability station of deciding for yourself what you want to do. How you frame what it is that is going on is going to create your happy, sad, mad or glad. That means that your overwhelm and experience of feeling overloaded is based on how you are setting up your perception.
Here is an example. I have a list that is four pages long. I have a list of things that I am committed to doing. I might mark off one or two and I add five more. I have job security, that part is cool. But the part that is overwhelming if I choose to go there is that I can never catch up. I never keep up. I just seemingly can’t get all the things done that I want to get done. Not everybody lives this way. There are people that do not have 2700 things on their plate. There are some of you out there that may just have a really simple life. I will tell you that a simple life is a much easier life to live. I used to feel like I was “supposed” to have a simple life. A lot of the spiritual stuff that I would read would just say enjoy your simple life. Be simple. Well, I obviously have forgotten about that. I don’t live a simple life. I live a complex life and it’s very full. I do many many many things. I have all of my life have been that way. It’s ok for me. It’s about embracing and living life to its fullest. It’s about taking on as many things as I can and completely absorbing everything that I can. I am very committed to education and being more connected and being in a place where I have things that I want to have more of.
One perception is that I am in scarcity. Another is that I am so passionate about life, there is so much I want to embrace, and it’s just like so exciting to be alive. I wake up and I say oh, I get to do this and do that. I am excited. That can either be scarcity or it can be passion. How are you framing your overload? Victimized or excited? Passionate or Overwhelmed? Are you recognizing that what is going on is self-imposed? These are important to do’s. You decide for yourself what it is that you are doing with what it is you have going on. Are you calling it overwhelm, overload, or passion and excitement? Which is it? The minute you shift it over to “I am so excited” suddenly the guilt and victim goes away. There is a new level of energy that comes forward. You notice that? I have new motivation when that occurs. When I look at my list and say, I will never get this done, I need to hire more people, I need to do this, I start to feel low and yucky. Then I start to draw more of those vibrations. The law of attraction. If I am in a place that I don’t feel good about myself, guess what I will draw more of to me over time? If I wake up and say I love my life, or I am so excited, today I get to do……then I will feel the positivity from that. I am grateful that I have an opportunity to live and live and live life. That is one option.
The other option is what I just said a moment ago. The negative route. I want to emphasize to you that how you are framing what you have going on has everything to do with your joy or your stress. Here are some things you can do when you have a lot of things that are on your plate. There is a program that I use called To doist. It’s a free program that helps you manage the things you have to do. Create projects and other things. Another one that Rafael and i like even better is Swifttodo. If you want more information about that, let me know. There are many out there. I am also using my daily calendar. In my swift to do, I have my own data base. You can have multiple. Personal or business. Under my project section I have coaching, blogging, podcasts, worldwide game changers, whatever. I have a lot. Then under each one of them, I will put a to do and a time that I am committing to get that done by. That helps me keep it on paper. I am clear about this. Every morning I look at it. What I recommend that you do is get your phone and put down chunks of time that is going to give you the appropriate time frame for what it is that you have to do. Yesterday, my phone is set up that when I have a task or appointment, my phone sends me a ding ding ten minutes before my next assignment or appointment. In my phone, I scheduled coaching between 11:00 and 12:00. Then I had edit articles from 12:00 to 1:00. From 1:00 to 1:30 Lunch. It kept going like that with chunking out hours at a time. Here is what happened for me. I really looked at that schedule and what happened was I couldn’t take time for all of the interruptions. I was going to follow that schedule impeccably. You have to decide, do you really want to get it done? If you do, you have a list and you know what needs to be done that day becuse you prioritized it first. I took my top 5 things I wanted to get done. I had the most productive day from following that. It was awesome. I felt so accomplished at the end of the day. When I am feeling overwhelmed, it’s hard to feel that good. I move through things quickly and it’s not the most effective way. I don’t like to do that all of the time.
My recommendation if you follow this outline of using time blocks to do what needs to be done then you will be more effective. You will be more successful in what you do. You can celebrate at the end of the day all of the things you completely. I ended up being over my schedule about a half hour. I was supposed to do something extra and I didn’t get that done. But I didn’t freak out and I put it on today’s schedule. It helped me know that I had that to do today.
Another thing is to access for yourself. Do you have too many things on your plate? I really want you to hear me say this. Are you listening? 99.9 % of everything you have a deadline on is your own headset. It’s your own mindset. Will the world end if I didn’t get that one extra article done yesterday? Nope. Was anything radical if I didn’t do podcasts yesterday and I did them today? The only thing I put real credence to is something that has a true timeline. I had an appointment and I knew I needed to be somewhere at a certain time. That wasn’t something I was going to mess around with. I followed my day accordingly. Here is what I invite you do to. Look at your list and prioritize it. Make a decision how committed you are to really have peace in your life and mastering this overwhelm and overload. If you are really committed then follow through with making the decision for yourself whether you are willing to organize your mind and your processes by putting them into some kind of organizational pattern like Swift. Once you have it down on paper, your mind can relax and then when they are down there you are recognizing the priority of them. Then every day you put down blocks of time that you are going to do what it is that have the highest priorities. You will find that the things that don’t show up as the first three or four high priorities in your life, you might need to think about letting them go or delegate them out. If you don’t learn how to do that, you will continuously feel the overload of not feeling great because you will never get it all done. Be realistic. Do what you love to do. Do what you want to do. Do what it is that brings you joy. The things you don’t have to do or can pay someone else to do, then it is important that you reassess and allow yourself to do them or delegate or give them up.
Hopefully you got some tools today. You have some foundation now of where it comes from. You can change your mind by changing your view point about what goes on. Are you a victim or a master? Are you going to be overwhelmed or motivated? Are you going to be passionate and love yourself for having so much excitement in your life? When you decide these things, it won’t overload you. It will excite you and delight you and bring you smiles and joy. Listen to this podcast again to remind yourself about where you might have gotten off the beaten path a bit. Bring yourself back to center. You deserve joy and you are a master of anything you choose. Until next time, feel a hug.
Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
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