Hi everyone this is Esateys.  Today I am very excited to speak about something that is fresh on my mind.  It’s called Inspiration verses desperation.  My work hovers greatly around relationships and mindsets.  This work is about getting deep inside yourself and really knowing who you truly are.  We have a sheet that gives us these different topics that we created one day.  Rafael said let’s do a podcast today.  I was sitting here looking at all of the things that are written on this excel sheet.  I thought to myself, what do I feel like speaking about today?  Then I went from my head to my heart.  As I read the different titles, I noticed how I was feeling.  Some of them were very distinctive and other feelings I had were not all of that exciting.  Then I came across several that I felt inspired by.  I thought I would really like to speak about that today.  I wrote down four or five different subjects for me to become invested in.  Many of you know I don’t have outlines.  I sit here, close my eyes and speak.  I am really in a great state of inspiration.  I can’t wait to come and speak to you about what I have come across.  I have a gurgly feeling in my body.  Now I have everything all set up and ready to go.  Rafael asked me what do I want to speak about.  I said mindset of inspiration verses desperation.  He said, that doesn’t’ work.  We have to do keyword, and funnels and all of that other stuff.  He has a plan in his head and I have a plan in my head.  I know what I am feeling inside.  He knows what he’s feeling inside.  Here we are at the greatest level of dichotomy.  We got back and forth and back and forth.  This is an important thing to take heat of.  Are you in inspiration or desperation?  Are you doing what you are doing because it feels in the flow of your blood?  Does it feel like what it is that you want?  It’s just wanting to overflow from you.  Or are you feeling like, omg, I need to do this and follow this schedule and because of the outline that I have written.  It’s the most logical thing to do.  I am not meaning to put Rafael in a place of desperation.  But I have to tell you he was running his mind from a logical viewpoint.  Which is where desperation comes from.  Inspiration is a right brain thing.  Not much logic.  It is more of a feeling based experience.  Your mind is always going to be determining what you are doing based on what is most prevalent for you in that moment.

If you are in your left brain and thinking of the logical reasons that something needs to be done, then there is value to that.  I want to be clear that there is a value in that.  And it is not a way of living if you truly want to know joy.  Ultimately, you want joy.  I want joy, we all want that.  And if you are going to move yourself into that place, you cannot be driven or run by or completely led by the nose to whatever it is that needs to logically be done.  It can’t always happen that way.  When you are really present you can stay inside yourself and ask yourself what is it that is true for me?  What makes me feel like I am going to overflow with joy, or glee or excitement or passion when I do it?  Verses what am I doing that feels like I must do it, I have to do it, because if I don’t that is when you start looking.  Start looking under the covers.  What is underneath that thought?  Is it a feeling of if I don’t do it, I am not going to be holding up to what my boss or partner wants me to do?  Almost always it comes from a state of fear.  Desperation and fear are best buddies.  If you are afraid you are going to be doing things through desperation.  Fear is driving you.  Regardless of what you say to yourself, you have to look closely to see if that is really accurate.  Many times we convince ourselves that we want to do something because the fear of not doing provides consequences that we don’t want to deal with.

It’s always about awareness.  I speak about this often.  When you are aware, you are going to be clear.  When you are clear you are empowered.  When you are empowered you feel good.  You are connected and have a higher vibration.  A different way of seeing things.  Your mindset is on fire with clarity.  That clarity allows you to do things not out of fear, but out of the experience of inner passion.  A motivation.  Something that really gives you a reason that is beyond your logic.  If you have your right brain that is in the flow and comes from an emotional state of man, this looks like fun.  Or if it’s the left brain, which is coming from, I have to do it, I should do it, then you are dealing with this chaos in your mind.  Chaos does not make for a happy mindset.  If you really want a mindset breakthrough then you have got to be aware.  Be in a place where you are recognizing that whatever you are doing that is always driven from one of two places:  inspiration or desperation.  This awareness is going to make every single area of your life be significantly different.  Your outcome inn your personal relationships will be different.  If you are pursuing someone because you are desperate.  You are lonely.  Or because if you are a woman or a man and you want someone to take care of you.  Those are desperation modules that we utilize to get it is what we want.

Another way of doing relationships is to really think about who you are and what you are really like.  How you want to express what it is that you love.  It’s important to know yourself.  When you are inspired then you know what is true for you.  A true sense of joy.  Peace, excitement and motivation.  Yeah, that kind of stuff.  When you are looking at relationships, look as to I am this, I am that, I am excited about this.  Then think, how can I share this with someone.  I can I help augment someone else’s life.  Not what can I get from them?  What can they get from me?  Then it turns into a pull and push relationship.  Pulling energy from each other.  That is not the way to do a relationship or to get the joyful clear mind state of inspiration.  What i would like to remind you of today is that your awareness about what it is that you are doing is going to be extremely important.

Here is another example:  You might be at work.  I know this gets tricky.  If you are self-employed, this will be a lot easier.  From one perspective, it may be easier.  You end up at your desk.  You are there in the morning and you show up on time.  You are committed and follow through and are disciplined.  You see your to do list.  You may want to go back to bed and cover up your head with the pillow on top.  I have pages of things that are on my to do list.  If I sit at my computer and open up my to do list and see this, I could get freaky and stressed. Overwhelm immediately steps in.  If you notice that for yourself, here is something you can do.  Come back to this place I was speaking about.  Inspiration verses desperation.  Look at that list and see as I did.  I really did a sensory connection exercise.  I read the title, was still and quiet, and I realized how it felt in my body.  Did I feel lighter, or heavy or tense?  Was I relaxed?  If you utilize this technique for everything you do, you will become aware of how you are living your life.  Then you have the capability of changing some things in your life.  You are sitting at your computer.  You are looking at your list.  You are reading it.  You are determining which ones make you feel light or heavy.  Your logical mind will most likely step in and say you may feel like doing this, but this is what needs to be done.  We have a deadline.  It needs to get handled now.  Get over the la la feeling.  You can see how desperation can be very strong and logical.  It will tell you in no uncertain terms that you must live your life according to fear.  When you become very connected to yourself, you will recognize that you never let the fear stop you.  Yes, there are certain things that you will want to accomplish in a certain period of time.  Look at what you felt inspired to do and do that.  Here is why.  When you do that, you feel better.  It raises your vibration.  It increases your happy attitude.  You feel inspired and passionate and motivated and then you can move into something that might not have seemed as inspirational and you never know because what is most likely is that you are now be inspired to do that because it’s like you gave yourself the reward before you did something that you didn’t feel like doing.  When you give yourself permission to do what it is that you really want to do, and you are excited about it, then you can go do what it is that you might have been resistant to in the beginning.  You feel like you got what it is that you wanted.

At the beginning of this recording, I felt inspired to speak about this inspiration and desperation thing.  We went through a back and forth situation.  What I realized was that being able to speak about this right off the bat, made me feel good.  I just wanted to talk about it.  Now I am more than willing to doing another podcast that will be what it is that will fit into the logic of whatever the marketing thing we are supposed to do.  I am giving you the under the covers view.  Most people won’t tell you the personal things that go on.  But for me, I want you to recognize how practical these things really are.  How it works every day.

What perspective do you choose to live?  If you are going to have a mindset that is going to be supportive, then you have to learn how your mind works.  You have to learn about the programs and beliefs and ideas that you have that make you feel good.  Unless you really know yourself, you can’t make decisions that are supportive.  A principle term is non resistive living.  When you are living in resistance and you are forcing yourself to do things that you don’t want to do, then you are not going to do them as effectively.  They will not turn out to be as terrific as you like them to be.  Everything we do is infused with a certain level of us.  The us is determined by our passion, motivation, excitement, positivity verses resistance, aggravation.  Those are put into whatever it is that we do.  If you are forcing yourself to do something because you have to, that energy is going in there.  Whether you believe it or not, there is a whole mechanism that works out in the universe that says what vibrates will attract itself.  You all have probably heard of law of attraction.  If you are putting out something out of resistance or desperation, then that energy is what you are going to get back.  That is why it is so important to relax and take time to balance your life.  It’s critical that you do that.  If you do not, you find yourself pushing, pushing and pushing.  That pushing ends up being in a place where you feel resistive.  It’s too much.  You can’t keep doing this.  You are tired.  You like it, but you are tired.  When you take a break, you relax and feel more peaceful.  You can step into your inspiration.

Here is your assignment if you choose to accept it.  Slow down.  Be still.  Look at everything that is in front of you.  From the perspective of am I inspired to do this or do I feel like I should do it?  Am I desperate to do it?  If you notice that you are desperate then ask yourself what that fear is about and then go deeper.  If you are inspired to do it, then go for it at 100%.

Take these moments and really connect with yourself.  Sink into your body and take slow deep breaths.  Close your eyes and breathe to the cycle of five.  Get into your body and then think about what it is that is in front of you.  Notice how you feel.  When you live your life from this perspective then you will notice that everything will change.  The flow of life will be your friend and your way of living.

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Until next time, feel a hug.

Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

For more information, go to esateys.com.