We have in us that competitive spirit. When we are in a competition and fighting to win, we tend to lose ourselves into the moment. We get too caught up that we forget how to relax and allow the event to make us happy. Instead of being there for fun, we become too intense. That is not how you should be dealing with life. Esateys shares her reflections and learning from observing dog shows. She lets us in on the environment and how the people are forgetting the awareness that will bring them to a more positive state. Reflect and think if you’ve been the masters or the victims in these moments.
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What I Learned About Life From Dog Shows
I would like to speak about what I learned about life from dog shows. Some of you know that I have shown dogs off and on for a long time. I just came back from a dog show and I wanted to start off with letting you know what it is that I’ve liked you to know about and what it is that I’m about to say. It doesn’t matter where you are in life, you have an opportunity to determine whether you’d like to be a master or a victim, whether you would like to be awake and aware or whether you’d like to walk around asleep. Here’s what happened to me at the dog shows.
First, I used to think that I wasn’t even competitive so much for that. Here’s a question to ask yourself, “Do you feel like you’re competitive?” A lot of people say, “I’m not competitive.” Do you like to win? Maybe you don’t feel like you’re going to kill somebody if you don’t, but if you’d like to win, if you’d like the feeling of accomplishment, if you’d like to experience having something occur that you would put your energy into and there are other people who are around, that’s when you’re going to find out that there is a little piece of competition inside of us. That’s not a bad thing. Part of what it is that I speak so strongly about, and I feel very excited about is bringing awareness. If we’re going to move from a place where you’re walking around unconsciously and not understanding why our business isn’t working, why our relationships aren’t thriving, why our health isn’t so awesome, or why we are having difficulty in different areas of our life, it’s because most of the time, we’re not clear about what’s happening. We don’t have the awareness of what’s going on. One of the things you’ll hear me speak about a lot is being very present and being very aware of what’s going on in your life.Life is supposed to be fun. Click To Tweet
I was at the dog show. First, I had a dog that was supposed to show up very early, which meant I had to get up at 4:30 AM. I wasn’t doing it because I was feeling tired since we’ve been catching up because we’ve been gone for a week and I just facilitated a retreat. I decided, “Do I have to show? No.” Life is supposed to be fun. Is what you’re doing fun? Are you doing things because you think you must or you should? Is it because you enjoy it? I realized that getting up at 4:30 AM was not going to bring me yippee, so I decided not to take that first class, but then we had two other dogs showing. I got there and I got this little puppy on. He is Moxie Man. We were getting oriented to the place and these three big dogs started barking at him. He thought he was going to die for sure, so he tucked his tail and ran for the hills. I had him on a leash, picked him up, and reassured him. What happened is he became very frightened. His tail was down. We were supposed to go in the ring in five minutes, so I decided it wasn’t a good idea to ask him to be at his happy best when he was still shaking and traumatized.
What I learned was that I had to let go. What I’m speaking about is letting go along with several other things. At that moment, I had gotten up still quite early. I had given him a bath, got him so perfect or at least I thought he was. We got to the show and we’re ready to go, then something out of nowhere shows up. When something out of nowhere shows up on your life, how are you with that? Do you get freaky about it? Do you get stressed? Do you resist it? Do you fight it or do you just take a breath and go, “This is what it is, am I going to be a master? Am I going to determine how I choose to feel or am I going to be in effect, complain, cry, whine and do whatever?”
I had to make that decision right then because at that moment I wanted to show him, but that wasn’t what was going to happen. Although I could have chosen to, I chose not to because I knew what he would do in the ring. One of the things that’s very powerful and important that I’ve learned tremendously from dog shows is how to be an observer. I observed all these people and some people were so grumpy. They’re so intense and so into it. They don’t smile at you, they don’t do anything. There are other people who are having so much fun. They’re loving on their puppies and doing what it is that they love to do. In life, I got to look at how do I be. Am I intense? I have to admit I’m pretty intense, but I do have fun. When I get on a track and I’m doing something, I can be darn intense.
I have a friend and we speak a lot. We’re not those ones that laugh all the time. I would like to be a person who laughs more, but I get a little bit serious about things. That’s something that I’m committed to changing. Next time, maybe I’ll tell jokes when I do my Facebook Live, but now, I want to speak about this whole observing thing, observe myself, know myself. In medicine, which most of you know I’m in medicine, there is a statement, “Physician, know thyself.” I say to you, “Human, know yourself.” Know who you are, know what you think, know what you feel. Be present and conscious about how you’re being with other people. When you start to see that, what occurs is that you can perhaps have a better understanding of why people are perhaps not responding the way you would like them to.
How’s your tone of voice? How’s your energy? Do you come at people or are you subdued, and you walk around very passionately? How do you be? Are you exciting and inviting to listen to? Are you kind and loving or are you a little snippy or snarky? All these things when you observe them in yourself, you can just make a decision. “Yes, I like that. No, I think I’ll change that.” The awareness and then the observation of that gives you that choice. One of the other things that are important is when you said, “No, I don’t want to change that.” That’s cool but ask yourself, “Am I attached to this? If so, what am I attached to? Why am I attached? Do I want to be right about it? Do I want to control it? What’s going on?”
This introspection allows you to become more aware of how to get your life to be the life you would love to live all the time. It helps you wake up to who you are and what it is that you are going through and how to make a difference in your life and other people’s lives because of what it is that you see in yourself. When you see it in someone else, they’re bringing that gift to you. Look at your attachment to what it is that you’ve got going on and whether it’s going to be supportive for you to shift that or not because attachment always means resistance. I harp on this all the time but resistance is also what causes pain.
Resistance is the cause of all suffering or the cause of all pain. Whenever you’re resisting, whenever you’re attaching, whenever you’re unconscious, you are most likely going to be in a place where you are in pain. Let me wrap this up by saying that the dog shows have taught me so much. On another day, I’m going to speak about what my puppies have taught me and how unconditionality is a gift that we all have the opportunity to express, but usually we don’t. If you have a dog in your life, a pet or something that loves you, then you’ll start to get a hint of what it is I’m going to speak about.Resistance is the cause of all suffering. Click To Tweet
For now, remember that you can practice these principles anytime, anywhere. It doesn’t have to be at a dog show. It can be at your work or in the grocery store. It can be with your family or while you’re making dinner. It can be when you get a paycheck and it didn’t look exactly like what you were hoping for. Whatever it is, do you choose to be a master or a victim? Are you aware? Are you observing? Are you attached and are you letting go? Because when you take a breath and just let it go and perhaps ask yourself, “What’s great about this that I haven’t seen yet?” Then in those moments, you will find that your body will allow you to open up the flow and experience more self-love, which allows you to fill up and overflow into everyone else in the world.
Until tomorrow, feel a hug and make this the most awesome day of your life so far. Would you please share this with everyone that you can think of? Please send these little pearls to as many people as you possibly can because when we all start being in the love of self and in the love of others, our entire world will change, so help create a movement of love, of joy, of the experience that allows us to live the life that we truly love to live. Thank you for sharing it and please comment below. I love your comments. I would love for you to comment more and share more. I would love you to private message me if you have anything that you would like more about this work that I do and how I can best support you in your life. Go for it. I’ll look forward to it.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
For more information, go to esateys.com.