There are just some aspects in our lives that we feel resistant. One of those is change. It is a sad thing to know that when you are resisting, you are keeping yourself from experiencing better things. It keeps you from growing and all it does in the end is cause you pain. While we grapple for too much control, we forget to see things clearly because we’re constricting our energy to flow. A principle in life is to let go, allow yourself to overcome those fear, and give yourself that space to breathe and to stop the resistance.
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Out With The Pain, In With The Joy
I am down here in Saratoga, California at an incredibly beautiful mansion. It’s owned by Anu Singh. We just completed the most amazing weekend. It was a retreat called, Out With The Pain, In With The Joy. We had nearly 30 people who made a massive transformation in their lives. We went over so many very strong, powerful awareness that came up for people that were quite phenomenal. I watched somebody who was very intimidated, very inhibited and fearful, blossom into this amazing person unlike anything I’ve ever seen. She was phenomenal. She came in like this and she went out like this. She inspired me so much that I can’t even get over it. There were so many beautiful people who were so committed to making a change in their lives and helping the world be a different place to live in.
We covered so many concepts. I can’t possibly go through partly any of them, so I’m just going to speak about one of them, which is how resistance is the cause of all pain. Whenever we are in a place where we are keeping ourselves smothered in and resistive about what’s going on, what happens is we have a constriction. When we have a constriction, the energy and the natural flow of life does not flow well. Whenever we shut something down, some of you automatically cut off the energy. If you’re in a position where you can clasp your hands tight, you’ll start to notice that your knuckles get white, your fingernails turn white and there’s no blood flow there. When there’s no blood there, do you see that there’s no oxygen there? If there’s no oxygen there, then there is no healthy tissue that is going to continue to emerge and help your body be strong. If you are holding your hands in that same way, it’s the same as when you are holding yourself back or resisting anything.
I’m going to undo this. When you do this, I want you to look at the palm and the fingertips of your hands. What occurs? The energy flows profoundly to our fingertips. When you see that energy flow, that means that life can continue in a very powerful way. If you’re wanting to have more money, you’re wanting to have better communication, and you’re wanting to have your children listen to you more, instead of being resistive about what’s going on, what if you stopped for a moment and took few breaths?
There’s a great breath system that I enjoy, which is called the cycle of five breathing. When you do the cycle of five breathing, you breathe in through your nose, hold it for the count of five, and then exhale on the count of five. What happens is it’s like with your hands, the restriction relaxes, the blood starts flowing, the flow and the energy of your life will continue to completely open up when you do that. If you want to have more peace in your life, then one of the things that’s very important to do is to breathe more, relax more, and notice when you are resisting. Notice the resistance and notice how that causes you stress. It’s all pain that comes from resistance. When you are resisting, you’re unhappy, your body shuts down, and your immune system is low. When you are resisting, you’re close-minded. When you are resisting, you’re not getting what you want. The main principle of life is to let go.Resistance is the cause of all pain. Click To Tweet
Allow yourself to be with what it is and recognize that the reason you don’t like what is happening almost all the time is that underneath that resistance is a fear. Whenever we resist, subconsciously and very deeply in there we have a fear that if this happens or this is happening, then something isn’t going to work well in my life. There’s going to be some perceived pain that might go on in my life and in my world because of what it is that’s happening. What do we do? We try to do and what we do is we become controlling. When we’re frightened on a subconscious level, it doesn’t even have to be consciously, but subconsciously, we start to control because we want to get everything to go the way we want it to go so we feel comfortable.
Much of our life is uncomfortable even when we’re controlling it. We want control because it makes us feel powerful. It makes us feel empowered. The truth is it’s a false belief. It’s a false reality. Controlling does not make us feel in the long run, safer. All it does is make us feel more desperate that we have to control the next thing, the next thing, and the next thing. When we do that, what we’re doing is be in a place where we are cut off from what other possibilities that can happen. When we are resisting, what we are doing is we are not allowing the miracles that are available for us to do. When we do that, we shut ourselves down for the magic of life from happening. When you’re up against something that’s tough, you can ask yourself, “What’s great about this that I haven’t seen yet? What if I allowed myself to experience this not knowing what its real purpose is? I’m open to finding out what the gift is here that I don’t even have experience of yet.”
What if every experience that you had in life, like a little curious child you went into and said, “What’s the gift here for me? I know that there’s something wonderful.” When we just did this retreat, it was so phenomenal down here in California. One of the examples that I gave was there are these two little boys and some of you may have heard this, but it’s such a powerful story. It’s Christmas morning and the two little kids, six and eight years old, are climbing and running down the step to see what Santa brought them. The lights on the trees are sparkling, they’re looking out the window and the snow is there. They come down, look on the floor and smell something and they go, “What is that?” The one little brother says, “There’s a big pile of poop here. This is a terrible Christmas. Santa Claus hates us,” and the other one said, “A pile of poo. There’s got to be a pony around here somewhere. Let’s find it.” How are you living your life? Are you looking at the pile of poo or are you looking for the pony?
Every person brings you a pony, brings you the gift, no matter what the circumstance is. They bring you the gift of awareness. They bring you the gift of what it is that will help you become more connected to yourself, more open, and be able to be more communicative in life. It helps you become more trustworthy in your relationships. Those relationships span from not only your personal relationships but your relationships with your boss, with the people you work with, with your children, with whatever it is that you have in your life. We could expand that out to the relationship with your body, with the environment, with everything and everyone on earth because we’re all interrelated. Relationships are the key to everything.
I wanted to share my due diligence because I’ve had such an amazing weekend with some of the most powerful people in the world. It was just exciting for me and to watch them transform in front of my eyes and give themselves the gift of their own increased awareness or own increased money, their own increased relationship, communications, their own levels of empowerment and everything else that occurred here. If you would like to know more about any of these principles, instant message me, private message me, because I would love to share more with all of you.Controlling does not make us feel safer in the long run. All it does is make us feel more desperate. Click To Tweet
I’m back to doing Facebook Live things because I love chatting with you and sharing what’s in my heart. Perhaps in the day that you have something going on, you will come out and share that with others because that’s how we work. We work together as a team. We hold each other and hug each other through life because it doesn’t matter if you’re a big, powerful CEO or whether you’re just someone who is living life without having any big title behind them. It doesn’t matter. We’re all still in our core with the same human issues and the same experiences. We all want to be loved and we want to love. We want to know that we have value, we want to contribute, and we want this world to be a better place to live more harmonious, more peaceful and more connected.
Thank you so much for being with me here. Share this with everybody and anybody that you would choose to and let me know how I can best support you in your life. I hope this day is the most awesome day of your life so far, and of course, it will be if you make it so. Until next time, feel a hug.
Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
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