WUE 37 | Expand The Box


As we grow up, we slowly set up a box of limitations to live in. This keeps us from ever doing beyond what we think we know. It keeps us from opportunities and it keeps us from achieving the best versions of ourselves. These are the belief systems that trap us instead of helping us. And while it might be safer to remain there, it is always better to be aware of this box and question whether it is serving us for the better. Learn how you can expand the box towards a freer and better you.

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How To Expand The Box You Live In

We’re going to speak about something called the box you live in. The name of this particular episode is How to Expand the Box You Live In? You might be asking yourself, “What do you mean the box I live in?” We grow up with certain parameters that create us to living life in a certain way. We are born into a family or wherever it is that we’re born into and we start to have input from those sources that tell us what life’s about. We’re a blank slate and we start hearing from our parents or whoever it is raising us, what life is like. It’s not just what the outer world is doing, which has a big impact on us. It’s what we’re fed on a daily basis.

When we do that, we start hearing what our parents and others think and we think that’s the world. The world of limitations that we live in is made up and constructed from these beliefs, programs, and concepts that we were given as we were growing up. It comes from our parents and that’s a very big input. As we get a little older, we notice that we have the experience of TV, internet, and all the media sources that we are constantly in touch with. Say nothing of the brothers, the sisters, the relatives, the friends, the schoolmates. All of these people have their own little belief systems, programs, and ideas that they grew up with and now we’re being inundated with all this stuff.

What we do is we do our very best as a child to put these in little boxes or little file cabinets, belief systems that allow us to feel like we can function in the world. If we are not in that space where we are looking at how to feel safe in the world, which is our number one experience and desire, we are feeling a total sense of abject terror. The truth is 99.999% of the world is in big fear, but terror is a place where you feel like you’re in a free fall. Have any of you ever felt like you are in free fall? All of a sudden, your head got scrambled and all your belief system seemed to be shaken and you don’t know what’s next. You don’t know what to believe in, who you are, and where you’re going. I felt like that a lot. The more I’ve been on the path of self-awareness, self-development, becoming more connected to myself, and teaching, the more that has occurred.

It’s been interesting and powerful to be in a place where I am aware of what’s going on, what it is that I choose to believe, and how it is that I choose to move on with my life. I would like to suggest to have awareness of what your box is. What that means is where’s your line in the sand? Where is your experience of your beliefs? Someone says something like, “I’ll take myself.” I am introducing some thoughts some of you who have never even heard of before. Others of you are like, “I’ve been there and done that.” Either one of those circumstances.

The moment you think you know everything is the moment you recognize you know nothing. Click To Tweet

Let’s say you’ve never heard this before. It’s a little bit radical, “I don’t believe that stresses me because I don’t want to believe I’m responsible for my life.” The other part might be, “I’ve heard this. Been there, done that,” and where you shut it off. The question to ask yourself is, “How much of the principles of life that bring you joy are you living?” The moment you think you know everything is the moment you recognize you know nothing. Every day is a day where we get to look at our experience of how confident we are with our lives, but we look even deeper and see how arrogant do we feel about knowing it all? We know it all because we want to always be right. It’s powerful to have incredible self-awareness.

If you would like to expand the box you live in, then give up your judgments about anything being one way or the other. Start to look at the possibility, what if what she says, what if what he does, what is occurring is awesome, but I haven’t been able to see that yet. What if I entertain the possibility that something else could be happening that’s very exciting. If I let go and allowed myself to be with that, then perhaps I would grow my box. I would see things from a different perspective. I would start to rise and see things from a more macro view because the higher your level of awareness is and the bigger viewpoint you have about what’s going on in life, it will give you a sense of freedom. It gives you a sense of freedom because you’re not attached to these little itsy-bitsy things that we get all so dramatize, so upset about and so stressed about, and then we close our box even smaller. We’re living in a state of limitation.

WUE 37 | Expand The Box

Expand The Box: If you would like to expand the box you live in, then give up your judgments about anything being one way or the other.


I invite you to be aware of what you’re thinking, where your line in the sand is, where it is that you are feeling like you don’t want to hear any more. “I don’t want to go anymore.” I was listening to somebody and they were asked, “Would you like some feedback?” “No, I don’t want any feedback.” Stick with where it is that you’re at and recognize that when we do that, we feel threatened. We feel nervous and we come up with reasons to justify that, but the truth is that is what’s occurring. We want to hold onto our limitations. You’re going to have increased awareness.

Here’s something else you can do. Be in a place where you think of one thing every day that is going to allow you to stretch beyond your comfort zone. No matter what that is. Maybe it’s speaking to someone about what you have a judgment about and you’re afraid to speak to them about. Maybe it’s something you wanted to say to someone, but you’ve had too much fear to do that, stretch into that. Maybe it’s doing something or going somewhere that you’ve never gone before and you have been holding back, go do it. Maybe it’s about starting a new business. Maybe it’s about stretching how much money you would like to make in your life. Maybe it’s about connecting with your children in a way you’ve never connected before. Maybe it’s having open, honest communication with the people that are in your life that you would love to. Maybe it’s about going out and finding new people to interact with and getting the support that you need for things that you’ve been trying to do alone and you’re struggling with.

There are a million, trillion things that you can think of that I’ll bet would help you stretch a bit. You could write a whole list of them and then pick one every day and do that. The way you build your self-confidence and the way you build your box to grow bigger and bigger until it’s beyond where it is that you can see. You’re living in that macro level, you’re in the penthouse of life, that’s when you start to know new levels of joy. I invite you to have awareness, make your list, do something new every day, observe everything, let it go and don’t ever let the fear stop you. When you’re willing to step into the unknown, that’s when your life and your box start to go to a new level.

When you are willing to step into the unknown, that’s when your life goes to a new level. Click To Tweet

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Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

For more information, go to esateys.com.

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