Every single person on the planet experiences making peace with pain. Pain is something that we all have a perception of. Everyone has some form of pain. It can be psychological, it can be mental, it can be physical. It can be however it is perceived, but it’s there. One of the things that’s important to know is that pain is actually optional and that pain is actually a sense of resistance. Things that you eat create free radicals. That’s a form of resistance in the body’s immune system that causes difficulty. All of the things that we perceive as pain are all based on a resistance to what it is. You could allow yourself to be less resistive to it, because when you do, the body quiets down. A key concept for us to understand is that our pain is how we are being with what it is that’s going on in our lives. The biggest thing and the most important thing is to be okay with what it is.
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Making Peace With Pain
We’re going to talk about something that virtually every single person on the planet experiences: Making peace with pain. Pain is something that we all have a perception of. I want to continuously and overwhelmingly express my gratitude for those of you that are sharing this. It is awesome that you’re doing that because it gives people a little bit of something different to think about than all the other things that most people think about most of the time. Thank you so much for the self-commitment that you have, meaning that you’re showing up here because you know that there’s more of you that wants to blossom and more of you that would like answers to things that will create you having a life that you really love. I also want to thank you for showing up every day. It’s pretty impressive and very exciting for me to be with you.
Everyone has some form of pain. It can be psychological, it can be mental, it can be physical, it can be however it is perceived, but it’s there. One of the things that’s important to know is that pain is optional. Pain is a sense of resistance. We don’t consciously think that we’re resistive, but when we have the experience that we’re having something occur in our body, your mind might say, “I didn’t make that happen. How could that have anything to do with me? My body is just doing what it’s doing,” but that’s not true. Things that you eat create free radicals. That’s a form of resistance in the body’s immune system that causes difficulty. If you’re having pain in your calves, think about did you just work out or did you just climb a lot of steps or are you not eating and drinking things that are balancing your electrolytes? When you think about your mental distress, is it because you’re resisting what’s happening with your work or is it emotionally because somebody said something to you? All of these are perceived as pain and they’re all based on a resistance to what is. It’s an important key concept for us to understand that in our lives, our pain is how we are being with what it is that’s going on in our lives. What happens and how do we get through it? First, the biggest thing and the most important thing is to be okay with what is.
I know that some of you might be thinking, “I am not okay when I have a migraine headache. I am not okay when I have a stomach ache or I’m throwing up.” Maybe you’re not okay with that moment, but you could relax into it. You could allow yourself to perhaps be less resistive to it because when you do, what happens is the body quiets down. When we resist, we tighten up, we stop the flow. We did this exercise on one of the videos where we held our hands tight and when we opened it up, we saw the blood flow back into our hands and our fingertips. That’s how it is when we’re in pain. We immediately tighten up because we don’t want to have pain.
Every person is driven by the pain pleasure principle. We seek pleasure and we resist pain. We move away from it as quickly as we can. Do you know the real secret to freedom? It is being okay with being in pain. What if you didn’t get your instant gratification every time you wanted something? What if you didn’t have somebody tell you what you wanted to hear every single moment? What if you have some physical discomfort and you allow that to be? What if you allowed your life to unfold? What if you became the observer of it and you noticed that what was going on was just happening in that non-resistive place and in that centeredness? You will find that your mind will relax, your body will relax and the pain goes away. When somebody’s mad at you, do you feel like you’ve got to do something about that?
I know I’ve spent most of my life that way. I know that I used to be extremely sensitive. When somebody would say something to me that would hurt my feelings, which was about anything, then I would shut down, I’d cry. I’d go away or think that they don’t like me and they don’t want to be around me. I didn’t know what goes on over there or what appears to be over there is what they’re projecting on me. I didn’t recognize that what I was drawing towards me was something that was in me. Now that I know so much more about these kinds of things, I’m able to be with what is in a whole different way than I might have. If you’ve gone through that something that is very disappointing lately, what if you will allow that to be okay?When you're in charge of what's going on in your headset, your life feels differently. Click To Tweet
What if there was something great about that that you haven’t seen yet? What if what you didn’t accomplish in that moment was going to open you up to something more profound? What if you are wanting to get a better job and make more money? What if you would like your children to be better? What if you would like to lose weight, if you would like to have more vitality, do you think on any level that putting energy on what isn’t working, the pain of that experience is going to make it better? I promise you it will not. Therefore, you have the option and the responsibility, for lack of a better term, to decide for yourself on how you’re going to be with what’s going on in your life. When you do that, you take charge of what’s happening inside of your headset and when you’re in charge of what’s going on in your headset, your life feels differently. You’re able to be expansive.
How do you get okay with the pain that’s physical and it doesn’t feel good? Honestly, I’ve been in a lot of physical pain in my life. Most of you know that I was in a serious car accident many years ago. I went through the windshield of a car. I smashed all my sinuses, broke all my ribs, had 150 stitches in my face. I was in a wheelchair for a year and had to sleep upright in a hospital bed for three months. I hurt a lot. I hurt emotionally and mentally. I hurt physically, big time, and since then I’ve had a lot of other things that have been perceived as painful. When you get a little bit older then you really get to see what pain is like because your body sometimes doesn’t respond the way that you would like it to do.
Some of you know what I’m talking about. That means you have the option to be with it and what does that mean? For me, it means that I breathe into it. I feel the sensation in my physical body. Let’s say it’s physical pain. I take a breath and breathe right into that joint. I get leg cramps fairly often and when that happens, I know my electrolytes are off. I need more calcium so I’ll take more calcium. While that’s happening, I breathe into that cramp. Does it mean that I don’t sometimes get out of bed and stand straight on my feet because that helps it to be better? I definitely do that, but there are times when I have a lot of different discomforts in my body, I send light into it or energy into it and relax and breathe into it.Be aware of how you're speaking to yourself. Be aware of how you're treating yourself. Click To Tweet
You can do that with anything, mental, emotional, physical pain, and you will be surprised how not only does it dissipate and go away, it doesn’t reoccur in the same way. Especially if you’ve got one of those recycled programming things going on like, “He said this to me and I can’t stand it. I don’t like it.” You’re replaying that program over and over in your mind. That is self-sabotage. That is self-punishment. Don’t do that to yourself. You are way too lovable to put that intention in your own body system. Be aware of how you be with you. Be aware of how you’re speaking to yourself. Be aware of how you’re treating yourself.
When you feel discomfort and you make peace with discomfort then you’re going to find that you will feel a lot more joyful. What’s awesome about it is that you get empowered. You get empowered because you realize if pain doesn’t stop me, then nothing can stop me. We live in a polarity-based system where we have up, down, good, bad pain, pleasure. Be okay with all it is, and you will be the master of your life, your mood, your attitude, your results and everything else. Practice that. It will be fun to see how you do with it. Be the observer of the pain rather than the victim of the pain and watch what occurs for you. It will change things, I promise you. It’s very powerful. Use that breath and relax.
What I would recommend for you is to go find somebody who’s having a rough time and give them a hug. Send them an email. Somebody that maybe you didn’t get along with then or maybe you think you don’t even like so much. What if you stepped out of your comfort zone, out of the pain of feeling disconnected from them and you send them an email or a text and say, “I was thinking about you. I hope you’re having a great day.” Something that’s perhaps a little uncomfortable or a little bit out of your box. That’s learning how to move through the pain into a place where you are able to find that all joy comes from a sense of relaxation, of giving and being with what is. Until next time, feel a hug.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
For more information, go to esateys.com.