Sometimes we have so many things going on where you seem like you can’t take the time to do that. When you have that in front of you and you don’t do what it is that you know is in your best interest for your health or for your mindset, then that’s not loving yourself and you’re setting yourself up for self-sabotage. If you would like your life to change, if you’d like your body to be happier, if you’d like to make more money, if you’d like to be a better communicator, if you’d like to have a higher altitude with your attitude, it’s going to take you caring enough about yourself and do what it takes for you to be in the flow of being more compassionate and more self-caring.
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The Sneaky Way We Self Sabotage
We’re going to talk about something called sneaky. The sneaky way we unknowingly self-sabotage ourselves. I was coaching someone a couple of weeks ago and they were telling me, “I’m really tired,” I said, “Tell me a little bit about it. What’s it like?” They said, “I get a second wind when I’m ready to go to sleep, but I wake up so tired in the morning and I don’t feel so good.” I said, “Tell me some more.” They said, “I’ll give you an example. Last night I was tired. I knew I was tired and I wanted to go to sleep. I decided to turn out the light but then I thought I’m not that tired. I went to my computer and I turned it on and I watched a show. When I went to get up the next morning I was tired again.” I said, “You realize that when you are not taking advantage of what it is that your body’s telling you, you are self-sabotaging.”
You’re setting yourself up in a way that allows you to not give you what you want. Your body wants rest. You want to feel good. When you don’t take advantage of the moments that you had because sometimes we have so many things going on, where you seem like you can’t take the time to do that. When you have that in front of you and you don’t do what it is that you know is in your best interest for your health, your mindset, for anything, then that’s not loving yourself. If you would like your life to change, if you’d like your body to be happier, if you’d like to make more money, if you’d like to be a better communicator, if you’d like to have a higher altitude with your attitude, it’s going to take you caring enough about yourself to do what it takes for you to be in the flow of being more compassionate and more self-caring.If you would like a body that's happier, then allow it to have what it needs. Click To Tweet
What if today was the day? When you positively said that I made the commitment to be more self-caring and more self-loving. What if today is the day that I respected myself so much that I would listen to what my precious body and my mind and my life was telling me? It takes a lot to do that because in general we do not take the time. We don’t think we’re number one. We forget that what is going on in our world out there is coming from how we feel in here.
We spent a lot of time trying to fix the “out there” instead of “in here.” What things are you doing right now? Take a moment and ask yourself what things am I doing that are helping me create unnecessary stress? I am sure that so much of the things that we’re stressed about our self-imposed stresses. The example that I gave you with the person that I was speaking about went through that very thing. They didn’t realize that they were setting themselves up for something that was causing them more despair. Maybe not until morning, but certainly in the morning and throughout the day, that’s what happens. How loving and compassionate are you to yourself? How aware are you staying to what it is that your body’s telling you that it wants? Are you sleeping enough? Are you pushing and pushing?
I have to raise my hand here. I’m tired at night because I’m going like a wild woman all day long. What do I do? I get in bed and all of a sudden, “I’m here but I’ve got to check my email one more time. I didn’t get a chance to look that thing up.” I’m telling you, if you want to do what I say and not what I do, at least in this instance, turn your phone off. I’m getting a lot better about that. I turn my phone off and I don’t allow myself to go there. Be present for what it is that you are in the midst of in that moment and if it’s sleep, then sleep. If you’ll say, “I can’t go to sleep right away,” then start speaking kind things to yourself and say, “Take me beyond where it is that my mind knows to go.”
What are the greatest things that happened to me today? What am I grateful for that I forgot to think about today? What if you have those thoughts as you drifted off to sleep? Do you know what that would do for the results that you have in your night, in your dreams, in your morning when you wake up? It has a lot to do with that. It’s up to you to take advantage of how you can create your life being the way you would like it to be. If you would like a body that’s happier, then you have to allow it to have what it is that it needs. Are you eating the foods that make it feel happy, not your taste buds that want to fulfill the things that we crave, but rather what makes you strong. What makes you feel healthy? What makes you feel alive? Is it processed food?
No, I don’t know one body that thinks processed food is so wonderful. Maybe the taste buds are excited and the emotional high for that moment is there, but in the long run it doesn’t work. Are you thinking short-term or are you thinking long run? When you decide for yourself what it is that you want, are you in for the long haul? If you’re in a lifetime, you’re in a body and you’re in this moment where you’re thinking, then you know that you’re thinking a little bit bigger than this very moment. It’s not about what it is that you have in this moment, but what it is that you’re thinking every day that’s creating that yellow brick road called your life. How is that happening for you? Investigate it and if you’re not feeling great, take a moment and look at what areas of your life you are silently and unknowingly self-sabotaging.
You might be saying, “If I’m unknowingly doing it, how am I going to know that I’m doing it?” That’s a good question. What you do is you go inside and say, “Show me where it is that I am secretly keeping myself from my joy, from my wealth, from my health,” because internally you have an automatic system that is running off to give you answers that will work for you. Don’t expect that you might get an answer in that instinct, you might, but if you do not, then it’s important that you recognize that it will come. Stay very committed to staying in touch with those little messages that come along. The little inspirations that come from other people or from wherever it is that you are receiving them. Right now, make a decision for yourself about what you’re going to be committed to.
What are you committed to in regards to your hidden, secretive, sneaky, little ego pieces that all of us have, that you want to see and feel and be aware of, so you can shift it? You cannot shift anything that you are not aware of. Ask for the awareness to be made known. Catch yourself and choose differently. Turn out that light. Walk away from the refrigerator. Be more loving when you feel like being a little bit grumpy. Do things differently than you’ve ever done before because you can never solve the problem from the place it was created. That means you have to do something different if you want your life to be different.
Thank you so much for all of you that are sharing. I love having you with me. I love connecting with you. Thank you very much for your comments because they mean so much to me. I love connecting with you that way as well. I want to ask you right now to take a moment and share this. Just take a moment, put it on your timeline. I also like you to think very deeply, internally about what you want for your life, what’s next for you, and how can I possibly help you get to the place that you are desiring and thriving and reaching for. There are things that we might be able to do that would make your life more awesome than you could ever dream or imagine. Private message me and ask me what it is that I can do to be of service to you or connect for a free call. Until next time, feel a hug.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
For more information, go to esateys.com.