What I learned from the beauty salon is that most people have one or two things going on. They want to look better and they want to feel good. There are other people that say, “I just want to be natural. I just want to be myself.” Many times when we say that we just want to be natural or we just want to be ourselves, we have this underlying thought that spiritual people don’t do that or you’ve got a lot of ego if you’re wanting to look good all the time. But the thing is that when you feel great, when you feel beautiful, and when you feel alive inside, your frequency rises and your attitude rises. You feel better because your vibration is bigger, and when your vibration is bigger, everything works better in your life.
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What I Learned At The Beauty Salon
I thought I would bring you with me because I had a very busy day. I didn’t know how it’s going to fit Facebook Live or be able to speak to you. What I decided to do was to be here in beauty studio that I am at Curl Up & Dye here in Portland, Oregon with Dana Carter. She’s the one who does pretty things for people. I appreciate her and all of the things she does to make Portland a more awesome place to be and to look. We’re going to talk about beauty a little bit because most people have one or two things going on. One is they want to look better and they want to feel good. There are other people who say, “I just want to be natural. I want to be myself. I want to be whatever.” Many times, when we say that we just want to be natural or we want to be ourselves. We have this underlying thing like, spiritual people don’t do that or you’ve got a lot of ego, if you’re wanting to be in a place where you’re wanting to look good all the time.
The first thing is when you feel great, when you feel beautiful, and when you feel alive inside, your frequency rises, and your attitude rises. You feel better because your vibration is bigger. Everything works better in your life. You are more attractive because you feel more attractive. You are in a position where you allow people to be in your life. You’ll find that when you’re feeling good about yourself, people compliment you more. People will find great things about you when you’re looking the same as you used to perhaps or you’re saying the same things, but somehow you are experiencing life. When you feel beautiful outside, a lot of times you will feel more beautiful inside. We’d have to switch that around and that is that when you feel beautiful inside, the outside is very profound.
One of the things that I asked Dana when I was with her was, what have you learned about being in this profession for all the years that she has been? She said that women are very hard on themselves and it is difficult for them to be able to access a compliment. They are so rough, self-judging and so difficult with themselves, but they’ll be nice and soft and easy to other people. Think about that for yourself. Is that a part of your personality? It’s not just women. I find that when I give a compliment to a man, rarely will they look me back in the eye and say, thank you. When someone says something nice to you, what do you do with that? Do you hear a little voice that says, “They don’t know what I’m really like or they don’t know me well enough to know what’s happening when I’m not in front of them?”
You hear a voice from your mother or your father or somebody who said, “You are not beautiful. You’ll never make it.” The most important thing to do is to remember that you are an amazing being. Who you are is not how you look and if you like looking at beautiful things, then do what it takes to feel more beautiful. Do what it takes to feel alive in life. Do what it takes to express yourself differently. I want to speak to many men about this because men, many times, not always, but sometimes they think, “I don’t have to do that. That’s the girl thing.” That’s silly. Why would you think that wrinkles on a man are suddenly attractive because we have a belief system that that is supposed to make you more manly or more whatever it is that you think. What about the color of your hair or what about your weight or what about the way you dress?
These are things that are important for you to be thinking about because men also have that same thing going on. They happen to be human, so therefore you guys, how are you feeling internally? How do you feel when you’re dressed up and you’ve got good clothes on and you feel stiffy? Doesn’t that change the way you see the world? Women, I already know that that’s true for you. If you’re hanging out in your sweats all the time, that’s great some of the time, but how do you feel when you dress differently? Are you dressing, are you looking, are you experiencing your life differently than just one old pattern? When you have that going on, you should make a decision. Am I going to continue to be in self-judgment or am I going to do something that makes me feel better? When I feel better, the world feels better.
Take a moment and contemplate if you feel sloppy, if you feel elegant, if you feel beautiful or if you feel schmucky. What is it that’s going on with you and then make a decision if that works for you. If it does, do whatever it is that you want to do. One of my purposes is to bring awareness to everyone and anyone who would like to know more about themselves. When they have that awareness, they can decide, does this work for me or not, because there’s always a choice. If your life is working, that’s great, but my guess is that there’s some part of your life that you would like to have a little bit different. Look at that and decide for yourself what would it take to have that and be the way that I would like. What would it take for me to feel more confident and more beautiful inside and out, and then reach out and go for that. Make a decision about how you can transform, recreate and reinvent yourself and your profession. This is life, you get to make it any way you want, so go for it.
I hope that you have the most awesome day of your life so far and that you will see the beauty in yourself. Go find someone else to let them know that they’re beautiful physically, mentally, emotionally, or in whatever way you feel drawn to because what you give comes back to you. I am again requesting that you get your name on my email list because I have new gifts coming your way. I cannot wait to connect with you. I want to remind you also that I’m going to be leaving for South Africa and I’m going to be speaking over there, so my Facebook Live will become sporadic and who knows where they’ll be coming from. Until then, until we speak next time, feel a hug.
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
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