Hi everyone, this is Esateys.  Today I’m going to speak about, is it hard for you to look people right in the eyes?  It’s surprising, but a major majority of people have a very hard time doing that.  They go up and they meet somebody and they will say, ya hi, uhm it’s nice to meet you.  They may or may not put out their hand or any of that kind of stuff.  But did you know that when you meet somebody and you go:  Hi!  I’m Esateys! and you reach out your hand.  Or if you’re really bold and overwhelming you might even hug them, especially if you don’t know them it could be a little bit for them, so you have to determine with whom it is that you’re speaking.  But, the bottom line to this is that when you have your shoulders back, and your chin is up and you are very straight-forward with somebody, and you’re looking them right in the eye and you are being direct with them, they will feel so much safer with you.

They will enjoy being with you because they feel that you’re not hiding anything.  They feel that you are trustworthy in a way that they don’t even know that they’re thinking, and they will feel that what you say has power, and you automatically have credibility because of the way you hold yourself, the way you speak, the way you stand.  The way that you have your shoulders, the way that you have your eyes, the way that you hold your arms.  Your posture is extremely important if you would like to have people really listen to you, really pay attention to what it is you have to say, and if you want them to feel safe and comfortable with you.  Now, I’m not saying rawrrrr, get all over them because that can be intimidating and overwhelming so I’m not suggesting you get too assertive, but I am suggesting that you have a way about you that allows you to look people straight in the eyes when you’re working with them, because it’s going to increase your own self-confidence.  You know how you felt when someone comes up to you and they don’t look at you, and they’re kind of looking away, and the shoulders are kinda down and a little swoopy?

There’s just something that doesn’t really sit for that, isn’t there?  Well, I invite for you to become very aware about you be with that, because when you face that person and you make immediate contact, you are literally opening up an energy of whatever it’s going to be.  And that energy is going to create your relationship being enhanced, or else it’s going to be not so comfortable.  And when you come out with certain ways that you are posturing or you’re speaking.  Those kinds of things are going to make a very big difference in the way your relationship is going to be going through.  So, I invite you to face the person, make eye contact, reach out and be assertive with the way that you meet with them, and make sure that you do not become too assertive, but also, not so passive.  Because it will enhance your business, it’s going to enhance your personal relationships, and it’s going to make you feel better.  Because there’s no way that you can walk around feeling depressed or any of that kind of stuff, if you’ve got your shoulders back, and you’ve got yourself in a posture, and in a way that allows you to look like you have confidence, because you do.  Because you’re comfortable in your own skin.

So, I want to again, thank you for sharing these videos.  I want to thank you for those of you that are instant messaging me or private messaging me and letting me know that you have shared them, because I’m entering you in the contest.  And now, I’m going to be going every two weeks for the give-away so people have more time since I’m only doing this twice a week now.  That way, the more times you share, the more times you get to be entered.  And last time, we had Janet Huges win and she was very excited, and I’m so happy.  She’s actually been a friend for many, many years and it honors me that she is there, as it does for me to be with each and every one of you.

So, here’s your question for today:  what would it take for me to always be looking directly in the eyes of each and every person I meet and I speak to?  What would it take for me to always be looking directly in the eyes of everyone that I meet and everyone that I speak to?  Until next time, mwah.  Feel a hug.

Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

For more information, go to esateys.com.