We all know how gaining other people’s trust can help enhance our businesses and our relationships. However, that is not an easy thing to do especially with some people who do not warm up to others that easily. Have you ever tried approaching someone who doesn’t seem to look at you, who is kind of looking away with their shoulders down and sloppy when you first meet them? What if there is a way to make people feel that you are trustworthy? What if you can make them think that what you have to say has power and credibility? What if you can make people really listen and pay attention to you? Discover how a simple trick of looking a person in the eye can help people feel safer and more comfortable with you.
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Do You Look Someone In The Eye?
The podcast topic is about the question, is it hard for you to look people right in the eyes? It’s surprising but a majority of people have a very hard time doing that. They go up and they meet somebody and they will say, “Hi, it’s nice to meet you.” They may or may not put out their hand or do any of that kind of stuff. Did you know that when you meet somebody and you go, “Hi, I’m Esateys,” and you reach out your hand or if you’re really bold and overwhelming, you might even hug them? Especially if you don’t know them, it can be a little bit for them. You have to determine with whom it is that you’re speaking. The bottom line to this is that when you have your shoulders back and your chin is up and you are very straightforward to somebody, and you’re looking them right in the eye and you are being direct with them, they will feel so much safer with you. They will enjoy being with you because they feel that you’re not hiding anything.
Posture and body language are extremely important.
They feel that you are trustworthy in a way that they don’t even know that they’re thinking. They will feel that what you say has power and you automatically have credibility because of the way you hold yourself. The way you speak, the way you stand, the way that you have your shoulders, the way that you have your eyes, the way that you hold your arms, your posture is extremely important. If you would like to have people really listen to you, really pay attention to what it is that you have to say, and if you want them to feel safe and comfortable with you. I’m not saying get all over them because that can be intimidating and overwhelming, I’m not suggesting you get too assertive. I am suggesting that you have a way about you that allows you to look people straight in the eyes when you’re working with them, because it’s going to increase your own self confidence. You know how you felt when somebody comes up to you and they don’t look at you, they’re looking away, shoulders are down or a little bit sloppy. There’s just something that doesn’t really fit for that, isn’t there?
I invite you to become very aware about how you’d be with that. When you face that person and you make immediate contact, you are literally opening up an energy of whatever it’s going to be. That energy is going to create your relationship being enhanced or else it’s going to be not so comfortable. When you come out with certain ways that you are posturing or you’re speaking, those kinds of things are going to make a very big difference in the way your relationship is going to be going through. I invite you to face the person. Make eye contact. Reach out and be assertive with the way that you meet with them and make sure that you do not become too assertive, but also not so passive. It will enhance your business. It’s going to enhance your personal relationships and it’s going to help you feel better. There’s no way you can walk around feeling depressed or any of that kind of stuff if you’ve got your shoulders back and you’ve got yourself in a posture and in a way that allows you to look like you have confidence because you do, because you’re comfortable in your own skin.
Feel and look confident.
I want to thank you for those of you that are instant messaging me or private messaging me and letting me know that you have shared them because I’m entering anew in the contest. I’m going to be going every two weeks for the giveaway so people have more time to post since I’m only doing these twice a week now. That way the more times you share, the more times you get to be entered. Here’s your question for this episode, what would it take for me to always be looking directly in the eyes of each and every person I meet and I speak to? Until next time, feel a hug.
Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
For more information, go to esateys.com.