Be Yourself : Find Inner Peace

Be Yourself

Hey everyone, this is Esateys. Just a few moments ago I did a recording about Out of the Box Thinking and I spoke about things like inner Earth and the Earth being a living organism, things of that nature. That might appear to be a little bit of a stretch for some people, maybe many people. And after I did the recording I received the feedback that was like, “Oh my Gosh, that’s like really radical” and “How are people going to receive that?” and “What’s going to happen to people when they hear this really radical stuff?”

What I have to say about that is that I literally don’t have any control over what comes out of my mouth when I do these blogs, these podcasts, these audios.

The truth about life is that we are the true core essence of all that is. And the pieces that you hear and see and interact with on the planet, with each other, are what I call pretend selves. They are your core expressing itself however it chooses to in this Game Called Life. So when somebody says you need to do it this way or need to do it that way, when you are sensitive and you’re connected to yourself, you recognize that just doesn’t really flow well.

I’ve never been a person who can sit down and do a left brain speech or follow an outline or do these things like most people do or “should”. Instead, I have always followed the true core of who I am and when I sit down in front of this microphone I close my eyes and whatever happens, happens. Whatever shows up, shows up. And that allows the true core of myself to be expressive. What if each and every one of us really did that. What if we didn’t censor what we felt, what we said, what we did?

Now I know some of you are going, “OHHHHH, if I didn’t do that I would have no friends”. Maybe that’s true. On the other hand maybe you would be connected with people who are really aligned within instead of trying to fit a square peg into a round hole, instead of trying to be something that other people think you ought to be.

Do You Act Based On Others Approval?

How much of your life right now do you live really trying to be what others think you ought to be? How much of your persona is based on other people’s approval? How much of your life is trying to please your mom, dad, brothers, teachers or any of those kind of things, even if it wasn’t true for you? How many times do you still do that now? How many Christmas parties or birthday parties or other kinds of parties do you go to that you really want to go to? How many times do you show up when in your heart and soul you just really wanted to stay home? How many times do you stay home and in your heart you really wanted to go but you wouldn’t give yourself permission to do that.

How integral are you? How true in your core are you? Until you are living in the moment, spontaneously, alive and vibrant with whatever it is that’s happening, you are not really ever going to know joy. And in some of those moments, you might find that it doesn’t feel very good. Sometimes, we just have things that we equate or we valuate as not feeling very well, but I will tell you, the true core of who you are is enjoying what’s going on even if your personality doesn’t think it so much fun.

Values | GoalsIt is so important to recognize that who you are is an expression, an overflow, an experience of all of life. Your true core essence, your source point, your God, your spirit, whatever your word is for whatever it is that you think creates your life, is doing what it does and you get to be the spokesperson, if you will. You are the one, the pretend self, the actual core self with the face in front that is the front man, if you will, for what is really going on.

So there isn’t anything the personality can control or do to take charge of. We like to think we can as personalities. The ego, which I use interchangeably, has taken on its own belief system that it is real and that it has control.

I am here to stretch you one more time out of the box – you don’t! You as a personality don’t. Your core essence controls even that. So I just kind of plant this seed for you to see if it wants to germinate for you. There isn’t right or wrong to any of this. My really strongest support to you is to give up everything that you think is real and that will create a little bit of discomfort for you. I understand that. Been there, done that.

When you go on to free fall and you start to question everything and you just sit back and observe everything, and you go, “Oh my gosh, what would happen if I didn’t try to control everything? What would happen if I was true or if I was authentic?” Notice the fear that might come up. “Oh my God, I feel like a wild person.” I might feel like I am awesome but look at those people. Do you think that is gonna change? Well ultimately it would but you could start with just being inside yourself and questioning yourself. “Is this really true for me? Is this what I really want to do? Or is it not? Is this what I really want to say. Is what I am saying really real” because how many times do you say something to somebody that is a lie. It’s a lie cuz you don’t want to hurt their feelings. It’s a lie because you don’t know what else to say. It’s just a lie.

Adventuresize Your Life

So it’s something to move into. It’s an expansion. It’s back to the word I made up last time…adventurecize your life. When you do that, you take away all of your considerations about what is good, what is right, what is wrong, and how things have to or ought to be.

Now that’s a real big free fall for most people because just notice how hard and hard strong you will fight for your limitations. How strongly do you want to be right? How committed are you to standing up taller than somebody else and making sure they are shorter than you, smashing them down so you can feel something about yourself. That is all of your personality trying to gain control because it knows in its core, it isn’t in control. And it can’t be, but that is the way the game is played out. That is the way your core has written your script of your life.

It’s a beautiful script. And when you really are able to see, you start to observe all these things around you occurring. You give up resistance. And when you give up resistance, you start experiencing more joy. And when you experience more joy, then that allows other people to experience more joy. Wouldn’t that change your life? So think about that. Breathe that in. And until we connect next time, feel a hug.


I hope you enjoyed this broadcast.

Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

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