WUE 21 | Freedom To Be Yourself


It is so much easy to get inside our own boxes and resist what is outside. While that is quite the comfort, you won’t fully know the extent of your capabilities. Likewise, you won’t know the things that will truly bring you more joy. People might take a peek inside and tell us what we need to do. The only way we can break free from the pressures is to step out and step up for ourselves. Find what’s true to you by getting out of your box. Explore the world and its possibilities, and grab those opportunities that continue to flow by around you. Enjoy that freedom to be yourself that allows you to seek life.

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Freedom To Be Yourself

I did a recording about out-of-the-box thinking. I spoke about things like inner earth and the earth being a living organism and things of that nature. That might appear to be a little bit of a stretch for some people, maybe many people. After I did the recording, I received a little feedback that was like, “That’s radical.” “How are people going to receive that?” and “What’s going to happen when people hear this radical stuff?” What I have to say about that is that I literally don’t have any control over what comes out of my mouth when I do these blogs, these podcasts, and these audios. The truth about life is that we are the true core essence of all that is. The piece that you hear, see, and interact with on the planet with each other are what I call pretend cells. They are your core expressing itself however it chooses to in this game called life.

When somebody says you need to do it this way or need to do it that way, when you are sensitive and you’re connected to yourself, you recognize that doesn’t flow well. I’ve never been a person who can sit down and do a left-brain speech or follow an outline or do these things like most people “do or should.” Instead, I have always followed the true core of who I am. When I sit down in front of this microphone, I close my eyes and whatever happens, happens. Whatever shows up shows up. That allows the true core of myself to be expressive. What if each and every one of us did that? What if we didn’t censor what we felt, what we said, and what we did?

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I know some of you are going, “If I didn’t do that, I’d have no friends.” Maybe that’s true. On the other hand, maybe you’d be connected with people who were aligned to you instead of trying to fit a square peg in a round hole, trying to be something that other people think you ought to be. How much of your life right now do you live trying to be what other people think you ought to be? How much of your persona is based on other people’s approval? How much of your life was brought up trying to please your mom, your dad, your brothers, sisters, and teachers, even if it wasn’t true for you?

How many times do you still do that? How many Christmas parties or birthday parties or other kinds of parties do you go to that you don’t want to go to? How many times do you show up when in your heart and soul you just wanted to stay home? How many times did you stay home when in your heart you wanted to go, but you wouldn’t give yourself permission to do that? How integral are you? How true in your core are you?

WUE 21 | Freedom To Be Yourself

Freedom To Be Yourself: You’re not ever going to know joy until you are living in the moment spontaneously alive and vibrant with whatever it is that’s happening.


Until you are living in the moment, spontaneously, alive and vibrant with whatever it is that’s happening, you’re not ever going to know joy. In some of those moments, you might find that it doesn’t feel very good. Sometimes we have things that we equate, or we evaluate as not feeling very good, but I will tell you that the true core of who you are is enjoying what’s going on. Even if your personality doesn’t think it’s so much fun. It’s important to recognize that who you are is an expression, an overflow and an experience of all of life.

Your true core essence, your source point, your God, your spirit, whatever your word is for whatever it is that you think creates your life is doing what it does, and you get to be the spokesperson. You’re the one, the pretend self, that is the core self with a facade in front that is the front man for what’s going on. There isn’t anything that personality can control or do or take charge of. We like to think we can, as personalities. The personality or the ego, which I use interchangeably, has taken on its own belief system that it is real and that it has control. “I am here to stretch you one more time out of the box.” You don’t. You as a personality don’t. Your core essence controls even that.

I plant the seed for you to see if it wants to germinate for you because there isn’t any right or wrong to any of this. My strongest support to you is give up everything that you think is real. That will create a little bit of discomfort for you, I understand that. I have been there, done that. When you go into free fall and you start to question everything, you sit back, you observe everything, and you go, “What would happen if I didn’t try to control everything? What would happen if I was true? If I was authentic?” Notice the fear that might come up for you, “I’d be like a wild person. Besides that, I might be awesome, but look at those people. They got to kill everybody.” They’re doing that anyway. Do you think that’s going to stop? Do you think that’s going to change? Ultimately, it would because people wouldn’t be so bound up trying to be something that they weren’t.

How many people grow up who go in and shoot down people for no seemingly good reason? When they were two years old, they were beaten or they were in the middle of a gang or they did whatever it is that they did and they have so much pent-up energy. They did not know how to be with those circumstances that it just pent up and it overflowed. Literally, it blew up. What would happen? Don’t you think that’s an interesting concept to consider? Granted, I’m not suggesting that everybody go out there and kill each other or do any of these wild things, but you could start with something. You could start with being inside yourself and questioning yourself, “Is this true for me? Is this what I want to do, or is it not? Is this what I want to say? Is what I’m saying real?”

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How many times do you say something to somebody that’s a lie? It’s a lie because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. It’s a lie because you don’t know what else to say. It’s just a lie. It’s something to adventuresomely move yourself into. It’s an expansion. It’s back to the word I made up last time, adventure-size your life. When you do that, you take away all your considerations about what is good, what is right, what is wrong, and how things have to or ought to be. That’s a real big free fall for most people because notice how hard and how strong you will fight for your limitations. How strongly do you want to be right? How committed are you to standing up taller than somebody else and making sure they’re shorter than you smashing them down, so you can feel something about yourself?

That’s all your personality trying to regain control or gain control because it knows in its core that it isn’t and it can’t be. That’s the way the game’s played out. That’s the way your core has written the script of your life. It’s a beautiful script. When you are able to see and you start to observe all these things around you occurring, you give up resistance. When you give up resistance, you start experiencing more joy. When you experience more joy, then that allows other people to experience more joy. Wouldn’t that change our life? Think about that. Breathe that in. Until we connect next time, feel a hug.


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Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

For more information, go to esateys.com.

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