Hi everyone, this is Esateys.  Today I’m going to speak about why you don’t get what you think you want.  And this is part one because there’s going to be part two, and the part two is going to come after I do the 4th of July celebrations.  So, it will be about a week before you get the second part of this.  But that’s ok, you’ve got things you can do with what it is I’m going to speak about.  So, this has been a very frustrating thing for me, which is why I really wanted to speak about it.  Because I have thoughts about what it is that I think that I want, I sometimes will go very, very passionately after that.  And I have for all of my life. 

I remember when I was 15 and I was going to get a car when I was 16, at least that was what I was hoping.  And so, I had it all figured out.  I wanted this truck, a pick-up truck, yes, I know.  I was so excited about getting this pick-up truck, my parents said no, and no.  And we mean like, really no.  And I said, but I want this.  I mean I cried, I threw 15-year-old tantrums and all this stuff, I was really coming on 16.  And they didn’t really care, they said you’re not getting a truck.  There’s nothing logical about that for you, you’re eventually want to take friends with you, you’re not going to be able to fit everybody and blah, blah, you know, all this stuff. 

And I was really devastated because I really thought that’s what I wanted.  Well, when I did get my car, it wasn’t a truck, but I was so glad that it wasn’t a truck!  Because they were right, dag gonnit, that I wanted to be able to fit more people it.  And I wasn’t gonna fit them in the bed of a truck, so it worked really, really perfect for me to really not got what I thought I wanted.  And I thought I was pretty darn clear.  So, one of the things that I really learned over time was, that it really is not what we want to have what it is that we want right when we think we want it.  In other words, the universe has created a perfect way to think about it a little bit. 

Give us a little space and time to determine whether that’s what’s really important for us.  So, there’s a delayed reaction.  Everything is much slower here in this world that we live in, than it is in a higher vibration or beyond this world, wherever your thought processes go.  The bottom line is, it’s really a gift.  But, here are some things to consider if you are really, really wanting something passionately.  So, the thing that you have to do is, you have to think about what it is that you say you want.  And at the highest level you can, take a little breath.  I’m not really good at this, I might tell you, I’ve been known to be impulsive.  And I just get a feeling and boom, I’m going for it.  And I mean, right now, I’m just going to have it and I get pretty impatient. 

So, that means that for me, I am listening to the words that I’m speaking now because taking a breath, counting to 10 or maybe 2,000 or maybe 10,000 or waiting a day would be a really good idea.  Because I get very picked-up, very drawn-up into things.  I am willing to bet that some of you that are watching this know exactly what it is that I’m speaking about.  So, this time gives us a chance to determine if that fire, if that passion, really stays with us.  And if it does, then it’s important to recognize that we have these things going on inside of us.  These unconscious belief systems, we have ideas that gosh, maybe I don’t deserve that.  Maybe you have a desire, well, let’s just think about something right now that you have a desire for. 

Something that you feel like you want.  So, got that?  Alright so now there’s something you want, so here’s a few little check marks so that you be able to do something with.  One is, and this is kinda funny because, is there an unconscious fear?  Well obviously, if it’s unconscious you’re not gonna know it’s there but you can ask yourself, what is it that might be in my way of me having what it is that I want” Let’s say it’s something that you’ve been wanting for some time.  And most likely what it is, is that there is a belief system.  There’s something going on inside and it can be an unconscious or it can even be a conscious thing that, I don’t deserve it.  People won’t like me if I have it.  It means that people are going to be able to judge me.  It means that maybe people will not want to be my friend anymore if I have it.  So, let’s say that you want to be making $100,000 a month. 

But pretty much everybody you know barely makes $10,000 a year, or $20,000 or $30,000 or something, but not $100,000 a month.  And so, when that happens, then we get into a place where we start to think about, what am I have to give up?  Because we want something, and especially something big, there’s something that’s going to have to move aside, create a vacuum for you to have that.  Sometimes it’s things that we unconsciously don’t want to give up.  So, you can think about that right now.  If you were extremely wealthy or if you had all these things that you’re thinking about that you want, what would have to change?  Would your friends still be there the same way?  Would they think that you were just like too snooty now, that you’re out of their league? 

Or, would it be that you think that they think that you wouldn’t want to be around them anymore?  Or, is it that you hear in the back of your mind your mother saying, oh you can never have that.  You can never do that, you can never be successful, blah, blah, blah, blah.  You know, all that stuff?  See there’s lots of in the background things that people have going on that they don’t know they have going on.  So, todays about introspection.  It’s about really looking at what you want and considering what kinds of things might be underneath the covers, so to speak, that are keeping you from receiving what it is that you want.  It’s almost always fear, I’ll give you a clue.  And that clue will lead you to the next place of, what is that fear about? 

So, think about that for a moment.  Because if you don’t know that a lot of times it will keep you from having what it is that you want.  And clarity is another thing that’s extremely important.  You have to be very, very, very, very, very, very succinctly clear about what it is that you want.  It can’t be some ominous, luminous thing.  It has to be pristine because the universe works in a way that allows you to become very structured and very exacting about what it is that you’re asking for.  And those little clues are going to help you.  So, what I invite you to do is write down what comes up for you when you think about having what it is that you say that you want.  And the second thing is you can ask yourself that question, what would it take for me to be really clear about what it is that I want? 

Because when we have these underlying things going on.  We may think we’re clear, but it’s the under the cover stuff that’s in the way.  So, what would it take for me to really, really be clear about what I would like?  So, today I’m going to offer you something very powerful and very exciting.  I am going to invite you to private message me.  And if you would like to have 20 minutes of my time for a free coaching session, about anything, it doesn’t matter whether it’s about relationships, about money, about your health, doesn’t matter.  If you’d like 20 minutes, no strings attached, then I invite you to private message me and when you do, I will send you a link to my scheduler.  I would love to be able to connect with you and share with you anything I can do to help you be more clear in any area of your life.  

So, until next time, feel a hug.  And part two will come in about a week, and I will see you on the 4th of July. 

Bye for now. 

Author: Esateys Stuchiner

Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.

Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.

Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.

For more information, go to esateys.com.