What’s in your backpack? By backpack, we mean the stuff that we carry around with us, our “baggages,” so to speak. We have old belief systems, ideas, and ways of thinking that called programs – those things from a long time ago that are not applicable anymore and are not supporting us and yet are still there. When we carry them around with us all the time, pretty soon our backpacks get really heavy and overflowing with all these unnecessary stuff that we become really slow like a computer that becomes very slow. In this episode, learn how you can defrag your hard drive and get your mind clear so you can become effective as a balanced and happy human being.
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What’s In Your Backpack? Defragging Your Hard Drive Of Old Non-Responsive Programs
We have a fun episode and the name of the show is What’s In Your Backpack? Defragging Your Hard Drive of Old Non-supportive Programs. You’re probably asking and I think it’s the first thing we’re going to ask Esateys is what does a backpack have to do with anything and then we’ll get to the hard drive. Esateys, welcome and could you please tell everyone what the backpack I’m referring to is?
The backpack is something that I use as a little example of the stuff that we carry around with us. You’ve probably heard the term, “She has so much baggage. He has so much baggage or whatever.” I’m just putting it in a little bit different way. What the baggage or what’s in the backpack has to do with everything is everything. What it means is that we have old belief systems, ideas and ways of thinking that I call programs. These programs, especially like in the old days, they may be vinyl records. They’re in there but you put them in your backpack and then they might be like the VHS tapes, cassette tapes and DVDs or whatever. The bottom line is that there are a lot of things that we think from a long time ago that are not applicable anymore and they are not supporting us and yet they’re still there.
We’re carrying them around with us all the time and pretty soon the backpack gets heavy and it’s overflowing with all this stuff that is not necessary to have anymore. In fact, it weighs us down with a real heavy-duty sense of many times depression, lack of clarity and a foggy brain and the things that don’t make us feel like we would like to feel. We have these programs and these beliefs that are ruling our life and we stuff them seemingly out of our sight. That’s why I like the backpack because it’s behind you, but it’s still on you. It’s still in you. One of the things that’s important is that we dredge it up and get it out.
In fact, this just happened. I was coaching with someone and this person said, “I’m feeling pretty good and I don’t want to cry again. I don’t want to feel bad again. I don’t want to go there.” I said, “I understand that.” It’s like, “Here I am feeling good and I don’t want to blow it. I want to stay here.” One of the things that’s very important and true in life is that whenever we try to control any circumstances, it doesn’t work. In other words, if you are going to deny something that comes up from within you and you pretend it’s not there, what you’re doing is you’re stuffing it down and it goes in the backpack.
We have all of these fragmented energies, all these fragmented thought processes and this is where the whole defrag the hard drive thing comes in. For those of you that are even semi-computer literate, you will know that every time we start an action on the computer and we don’t complete it, finish it, end it, delete it or whatever it is, what occurs is it’s left hanging out there. It’s not complete and so it’s a fragment. It’s like a fragmented sentence and we know that we don’t get good grades when we have fragmented sentences in our English class. The bottom line is our computer internally is saying fragmentation doesn’t work. Back it up a little bit. That means that thought processes that are not complete and not dealt with are going to come back to bite us in the booty or whatever word you would use.
That means that we don’t want to ignore it. What I told this person that I was coaching was, “I realized that you like thinking that everything’s okay. What I’m perceiving is that you’re doing whatever you can to cover up what’s going on because your resistance to feeling your feelings is so big that you’ll do whatever it takes to not have to go to the place that you have deemed as uncomfortable or not friendly or whatever word you would use. Therefore, what I want to suggest to you and this is one of the most important things is, ‘Give up the resistance to feeling what you feel.'”You feel what you feel. Give up the resistance to feeling what you feel. Click To Tweet
You feel what you feel. Where it came from, asking why it has no value. It doesn’t matter. What’s true in the present is that you’re feeling a certain way. When you feel that certain way, instead of resisting it, rebelling against it, and trying to move away from it and make it go away, ignore it or shove it. Whatever it is that we try to do with these feelings is ineffective and it will completely exacerbate the issue. What you’re doing is spending a lot of energy, you’re giving a lot of energy to this particular energy field and anything we give energy do grow. It becomes harder and harder to hide what’s going on.
I’m into computers and I don’t even know if you know this, but when something is saved on your hard drive, it’s not necessarily stored in one location after the other. It’s stored in location one then it might go to location 50 and then location 30 and the operating system works so that it puts it all together. When we get so scattered, when we have all of these conflicting feelings, when we have all of these thoughts that have come together over the many years, it’s no wonder we can’t make any sense out of what we’re feeling and what we’re thinking.
Before I go into that, am I hearing you say that when you have something on your computer, you said it’s not just saved in one location? It goes to a whole bunch of locations and it’s saved there?
How does it know where to go?
The operating system knows how to do that. That’s why we periodically defrag the computer when you run the defrag program like in Windows, I don’t know about Apple. When you run the defrag program, it puts them all in one location or in one area so that it allows the computer to run quicker. The initial thing is if you had a hard drive that it only had 10% left, you could bet for sure that you’re going to be saving stuff wherever there’s an open space. It’s not until you defrag it that you reorganize everything. Until then without a good, accurate operating system or in our case sense of awareness, it can be problematic.
We can talk about this after, but what I’m asking is I can completely follow the fact that it’s saved wherever there’s an available space. If I hear you, you’re saying that it’s saved to one space and then it goes over and it fills up another space and then another space, so the one fragment is in ten or twenty places all at once.
It could be and the operating system keeps track of where all that stuff is stored so that’s why it comes out seamlessly. What you see in listing of all your programs and your files, that’s just a roadmap but the computer deciphers where that stuff is.
I didn’t know that and somehow, I find that amazingly difficult but I definitely do know that when we have thoughts that are incomplete, that we keep them handy and they cause stress. Have you ever noticed that when you have something to do that hasn’t been completed, that you feel some stress about it? Have you noticed that if you make a list of things to do and you don’t complete it, that there’s this subconscious pressure on yourself that’s hanging out and needs to be completed? Have you ever noticed that if you don’t deal with this and then there’s another one, not only do you have all these incomplete fragmented thought processes, which means energy stringlets. What occurs is that it becomes so coagulated and intertwined without a complete, clear beginning-ending path that we become slow, like a computer that becomes very slow. We become foggy in our mind. We become ineffective with getting anything done. We feel this heavyweight that we can’t explain and we don’t even know where it’s coming from dragging on us. It creates us being ineffective as a balanced and happy human being.
There are so many analogies to the computer and into our brain and taking it deeper to the level as we talk about in our work that I find it so fascinating. The defragging of the hard drive is literally getting your mind clear because you’re putting everything in a place that can be easily understood. The computer knows where it is, but we don’t think we do.
That’s the key piece, “We don’t think we do.” Our conscious mind doesn’t remember, but the subconscious mind remembers where everything is, which is why hypnosis can be very effective because when you get the conscious mind out of the way, the subconscious mind can go back and remember things from childhood and even some people’s beliefs are about other lifetimes and things of that nature. When we talk about these fragmented thought processes, what we’re saying is that you are not going to be the happy camper that you would like to be and it’s not just getting it organized, it’s about deleting them. It’s about not having probably 99% of them even anywhere in or near your system because they’re not effective. They can’t be effective because they are not completely complete. It’s an incomplete thought.
It’s like starting a sentence and then we just move on to something else like I did right there. We start to say something that’s going to be important and instead of ending the sentence, “Did you know that the sun has been interesting today? It’s been in and out.” I start a sentence and now I’m over here in the left field talking about something completely different. The mind gets left with, “What about what you were saying a minute ago?” Do you know of a fascinating thing to do? The next time you’re speaking to somebody, pay very close attention and notice how many people do not complete their sentences. They don’t complete the thought process that goes with the sentences. It’s fascinating. Very few people speak in complete sentences and in complete thoughts. We are overloaded with so much data and many multi-level things happening that we can’t keep up with them all, so we shift from one thing to another thing.We become judgmental on ourselves when we don't complete things. Click To Tweet
Another interesting thing to observe is that when you’re speaking to somebody and you’re talking about one thing, notice how that will trigger another thought and either you or the other person will start speaking about that and completely forget about what it was they were talking about a few minutes ago. It’s pretty fascinating. We’re so erratic and we don’t do follow through. We don’t do completion well in general. Some people do well with that, other people not so much and you can take a look at that through as a way of determining. You may be saying to yourself, “I do. I complete all my sentences. I go through all my thought processes and I do all of that.” If that’s so that’s great.
How many projects do you begin but you don’t complete? How many times have you said, “I am going to lose ten pounds,” but you never did? How many times have you said to yourself, “I’ll take out the trash,” but you never did? How many times have you said, “I’m going to get that book and I’m going to read it,” but you never did? How many times have you made promises to yourself or just someone else but you never followed through? How many things in your life on a daily basis do you start but do not finish? All of this goes into your backpack. All of this builds up an internal thought process that you are not trustworthy. If you aren’t trustworthy, then you are never going to feel loved and lovable. In fact, you’ll feel guilty and shameful and you will reject people who are trying to love you. It’s fascinating because all of this interacts and plays on the other parts of ourselves and other people.
I think personally and we’ve talked about this on previous shows, that the amount of input that we get from so many different places from TV to the internet, to the computer, all these kinds of things exacerbates that flow of information. It’s like sixteen lanes coming down into four lanes and not all of it’s going to get through. That’s exactly what we’re starting to feel these days. I wanted to shift up this conversation a little because the backpack not only is it the various fragmented thoughts that Esateys was talking about, it’s the programs that we’ve developed all along the way. We’ve developed them from childhood and we’ve talked about this as well, but the point is that we don’t even know those programs are running. Not only are we fragmented but we have other things that are driving us and we have no conscious awareness of it, which is what makes us even more insidious.
Most of the programs in the backpack are running in the background and just like in the computer, I frequently get a little notice that comes up and I’ll close Skype and it will say “Skype is running in the background.” I don’t even know exactly what that means, but the bottom line is I know it’s somewhere handy. It must be still up in the RAM, meaning that it’s still available to come forward pretty quick. That’s what’s true about these things called triggers that we get. When we get a trigger, it is like a program that’s been running in the background and to the degree that is a very hot button for you will be more readily brought to the surface very quickly or it might take a lot more for it to come up.
When we do that, what we find out is that we are in a place that we are completely unaware that this is happening or is there waiting to happen because we become very robotic. The backpack holds all of those programs. Mostly the unknown programs that create us being very robotic, meaning that we do things through routine behavior. We’re in rote. We do it without thinking about it just like you drive your car. You do the certain things that you do in regard to your laundry or you’re turning on the TV or talking to somebody or whatever it is that you’ve done regularly and you know it by heart at such a high level that you do it without thinking about it. That’s the kind of thing that I’m referring to here.
Your backpack is subconscious programming. The majority of your backpack is ineffective, dragging you down and has no happy, high vibrating, generous love of opportunity or support for you. Therefore, all of these needs to be released. When we talk about defragging your hard drive, we’re talking about eliminating and not feeding any more into these fragmented programs or these unconscious or subconscious behaviors. The question that always comes up is, “How do I do that?” I’ll tell you the simplest, not necessarily the easiest, but the simplest thing to do is to be so present in the moment that you know what you’re thinking, feeling, saying and doing.
That means that every sentence is followed through to the end, “I went to the store today.” Period at the end of the sentence. That’s a complete thought. Most people’s minds will say, “Tell me more. What’s that have to do with anything?” You can go on and expand on that. “I went to the store today. I got zucchini and vegetables and all these other things and such and such was on sale. I saw this sample that they had with these different oranges and I got some of that and they were so good.” You could go on and on with a whole story about that, which could take your thought process out to a much longer dissertation if you will.
The bottom line is it doesn’t have to be that much. This simple thing to do is to be aware of what you’re thinking. Be aware of what you’re saying. Be aware of whether you’re completing a thought to the degree that you can have correct grammar by putting a period at the end of the sentence. At the end of the sentence, could somebody read that sentence and know what it is that happened? They may be curious about a greater depth of it, but would that sentence tell them something without leaving them completely hanging? When you are totally present to that, it starts to restructure your hard drive. You start replacing a lot of that old stuff with new complete thoughts. Another thing that you can do to pick up those fragmentations is to go into a state of meditation and the state of meditation can be my personal favorite.
Breathing in very slowly through your mouth to the count of five, holding it between your eyebrows to the count of five, slowly and then exhaling through your mouth to the count of five very slowly. Repeat that cycle five times and take within yourself the conscious awareness of where it is that you’re thinking and bring your focus into the center of your body. Send this energy or light or a color that’s bright, brilliant and alive for you throughout your entire body and literally ask for all the fragmentations that are left there to be eliminated. There are processes that we do in the retreats, in the coaching and in the workshops and things of that nature that we do that go through things like this to a much greater extent. This is something that you can utilize on your own, that you have the ability to clear out your hard drive like you can on your actual computer.
You’ve taught at the retreats. Almost every one of them, you get to this at someplace. These processes for triggers and things like that are very effective. My favorite and the one that I utilize most personally is that when a thought comes into my head and I realize I’m judging someone or I’m judging myself or I’m having whatever aberrant thought that I have, I go to myself, “Delete program.” It is so effective because it cuts the energy. It cuts everything off and I don’t have to worry about that it’s going to come back. It may come back again and again until I keep deleting it but, at that moment, I am going to be free of that judgment.
That is a good example of something that’s very powerful. I have used that in the past a lot myself. The reason that it does that is because it interrupts that old program and when you interrupt the program, you will find that the more you do that, the more ineffective it is until it finally breaks and it’s no longer effective anymore. It will not be there haunting you coming up and repeating itself over and over again. The other thing about that is that you can replace these fragmented thoughts and these ineffective thought processes by replacing them with the things that you currently would like to be thinking about. You can say delete program and then move your thought process to something like, “I’m so grateful that my life is as great as it is,” or something.
Using your what-if statements, the hypothetical questions that we so often speak about one after the other. We delete the old stuff that’s repetitive and not serving us and then opening our minds to something much more expansive. I found that one of your other favorite sayings is and you always talk about this is, “Take me beyond where my mind knows to go.” If we delete all programs and then take us beyond where our mind knows to go, we are not only cleaning out the hard drive but we’re making room for new stuff to come in and to fill it up that’s going to be more expansive and more serving for us, more beneficial to us.Your relationship with yourself is going to determine what happens with the relationship with others. Click To Tweet
Like we spoke about in the multidimensional podcast, we’re literally changing the vibration. We’re changing the dimensional reality of where our focus is and that allows for different kinds of thoughts. A higher-level thinking if you will, to come through, which is always going to be to your advantage because the stuff in your backpack is pretty much always ineffective and a lower vibration. It might be filled with depression, grief and things of that nature that we weren’t present at the time that it was happening. It’s very powerful for you to know that you have the power, you have the ability.
It’s time for you to step up and step out and make a decision about what you want for your life. If you want a life that feels awesome, then you must allow yourself to recognize where you were, where you are and where you find yourself trying to think forward to and bring yourself back to the center of this moment only and always. When you do that, then you become empowered and you feel so much better because the sadness, the depression, the resistance and all of those things come from thought processes that are from the past or from the future. Be here now.
It’s like we talked about, “Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?” When we get to that place of, “I want more rather than my own old limitations,” the sky’s the limit in terms of great things happening for you.
We’re touching on this to give you an idea about what you can do with these backpacks. First of all, become educated about that. If you have back pain, it might be that you’re carrying around a lot in your backpack. No kidding. Literally, sometimes the body will respond that way and when you can see and start to utilize this analogy in your favor, you’ll see that incomplete thought, incomplete sentences, incomplete anything. If you don’t close the cabinet doors, if you don’t complete a book, if you don’t complete your sentences or if you don’t complete your projects, something different will occur in your life that won’t necessarily be in your highest result category for what it is that I think that you want. We become judgmental on ourselves when we don’t complete things.
In addition to that, what we do is we leave our energy fragmented and that’s because we are not staying present. If you’re present, you’ll close the doors or the cabinets. If you’re present, you’ll see what’s on the floor instead of walking on something and blaming somebody else because they left it there. If you are present, you will be aware of what you’re saying and how the other people are receiving what it is that you’re saying. You can be very caring in the way you communicate. It’s compassionate communication. If you’re present, you will find that you feel a lot better about yourself and other people will feel safer with you. People will not trust people who don’t complete things because they have a subconscious thought that they will not be fulfilled themselves in the relationship. It’s very subtle but very powerful.
How does all this relate to our relationships, the stuff about the backpacks and what we’re carrying around?
Everything that’s in our backpack is causing us to act or react about everything in our life. It’s completely clearing or clouding our way of seeing, feeling and thinking in our lives and obviously in our relationships. If you have a lot of incomplete thoughts, a lot of fragmented ideas, a lot of old garbage ruminating in the backpack, then you’re going to see life through the glasses that are relative to that energy. You will only be able to experience and have something come to you based on where it is that you perceive it. If you perceive your life to be victimized and not so great, then you are going to be in a relationship most likely that won’t turn out to be the way that you would like it to be. You will be reiterating and pulling towards you what it is that you have been resisting or not looking at.
Being in a fragmented state creates inconsistencies and therefore will affect the safety in the relationship because the other partner will not know what to expect. When’s the other shoe going to drop, so to speak? All of this, the programs, the backpack, all of this stuff is it runs through so many areas of our life and it is so important to become aware of and then ultimately to master. Do you have anything else you want to say before we go into questions?
The only thing that I can say is that you may hear a lot of the same things in different ways of putting it, but let me explain to you that every time you listen to one of these podcasts or you come to a Meetup or you coach or you do a retreat or you come to a workshop or you do the online program that we’re going to be doing. Anytime you do any of those things, your entire perception is going to change. Your entire energy perception will shift. You will be at a higher vibration, if you will, that will increase your altitude, your attitude and the way that you be in life.
That being the case, when you hear something a second or a third time that your conscious mind may say, “I’ve heard that before,” but you will not hear it the same way if you’ve continued to grow and elevate yourself. It never gets old. The reason that it keeps coming up is because the principles are always very simple and we keep hearing them. I keep speaking them over and over again until we get it, until we become it. Be consistent with your own personal growth, stay steadfast, follow through and always come to any experience in your life as a child with curiosity and with the willingness to always be open-minded, open-hearted and allow yourself to glean all of the gifts that are there for you.
We have a question from Jada from California and she was reacting to our multidimensional happiness episode that we did and she writes, “I was blown out in a good way about your episode on multidimensional happiness. The idea of having the ability within us to shift to a higher level of happiness at will is exciting to me. How can being multidimensional help me with my relationship with my boyfriend?”
Jada, first of all, let me acknowledge you for being in a place where you are open to the understanding that there’s more to life than what it appears to be. I acknowledge you for the fact that you would like to use these principles in a way that can be supportive in your relationship and therefore, in your life. When we make a decision that we want to expand out from where it is that we currently are, that means that we’re in self-development expansion. We are learning more about ourselves, about life and all of the things that are available for us. Some people stay in a nice little comfortable rut, if you will. You and everyone who’s reading this is the kind of person that wants more, that knows that there’s more that wants to develop and expand who they are, what they know, what they can contribute to life and therefore what they can receive.No matter how big of a vision you think you have, there is a gazillion times more than that which is available for you. Click To Tweet
When you are looking at multidimensionality and how it can support your relationship, one of the things that are very important is that you realize that whatever dimension you’re living in is directly related to the vibration that you are vibrating at in any given moment. If you’re feeling depressed and you’re feeling not so great, then you are going to be seeing things through the lens of what it is that happens at that specific frequency or that vibration. Therefore, when you know that you’re in that place, what’s key is to get yourself to another location dimensionally so then you will be able to have an effective conversation. If you go in with a chip on your shoulder, feeling victimized, not feeling like you are worthy of having things work out or whatever your thought processes are, then what’s going to happen is you’re going to attract more of that, more conflict to you.
The multidimensional self has to shift, not because you’re doing it because you want to do something to your relationship, but because your relationship with yourself is going to determine what happens with the relationship with others. Remember, it’s always about self. What I suggest that you do is go back and read that blog again and some of the how-tos on multidimensionality. For simplicity’s sake, it’s important to think about another dimension as another frequency, another word, a more elevated state of mind. Another word thinking from a bigger viewpoint, in other words, observing that there are so much more than what appears to be in this very moment with such a limited range of vision. No matter how big of a vision you think you have, no matter how much you feel like you can see, no matter how much compassion you think that you have for other people, there are a gazillion times more than that that’s available for you.
No matter where you are, always remember you’re at the bottom rung of the ladder for your own self-growth because your ladder will constantly keep going on into infinity because the ability for you to be all you’re capable of being virtually cannot happen. It’s so fun to know, learn and live the journey of this. That when that becomes paramount for you, what you find is that you are able to enjoy the journey instead of thinking that you’re going to get somewhere. When that’s clear to you, your whole life shifts.
Jada, I would like to say that if you’re able to voice this and have this kind of conversation with your boyfriend then maybe he won’t relate to multidimensionality. If you can at least get him to start to read and be aware of how important your frequency is and how that affects you and how it will affect him, if you open that conversation, it will just deepen your frequency. It’s being able to speak with your partner in a voice that he’ll be able to hear. Esateys, what’s our final question for the day?
Our final question for the day. Remember, these are rhetorical questions. Please don’t look for an answer. Don’t sit there and wait and hope something shows up or downloads from nowhere. This is to give your mind an assignment to go out and be busy doing something that will be supportive for you and the love within your life for the expansion within yourself and for the support that will help your life be the most passionate, exciting and amazing adventure. The question is, “What would it take for me to empty my backpack?”
I want to warn you that your conscious mind is going to want to dig in and say, “I’m going to do those things that she said.” What if something completely different showed up for you? What if it just dissolved overnight? There are so many more options available to you than even what it is that I covered because I only have so much time to cover so many different options. I promise you that you will have amazing things occur when you ask, “What would it take for me to empty my backpack?” Ask it and then move on to some other form of thinking and pay attention to what it is that occurs in your life. Sometimes what occurs is things that aren’t comfortable will come up for us to make a choice about deleting the program or whatever it may be. It’s going to be an adventure because this is your life and you are here to have something that is more awesome than you could ever dream or imagine happen to you in each moment of each day.
I will say, what will it take to get you back here next time when we are going to be talking about are your judgments getting the best of your relationships? That’s the number one killer in my view. What will it take to get you here with us on our next episode? We love you. We appreciate you and we’ll be back. Send us your questions. We want to hear from you. Please go to our website at www.Esateys.com. We are putting on a sign-up for our new newsletter, which we are getting ready to launch. We have a bunch of new things that I think you may enjoy. Come to our website and look around. One of the things you’ll notice at the very top of the webpage, it asks three questions, “Where would you like to start? Would you like support in your material world? Would you like support in your spiritual world? Would you like to have it all in both worlds?”
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Author: Esateys Stuchiner
Esateys (pronounced Ee sáh teez) is an International Life Transformational Speaker, Author, Master Facilitator, Life Coach and Expert in the Human condition. She is a Nationally and Board Certified Nurse Practitioner. For over 30 years, she has practiced, taught and lectured extensively in the allopathic and alternative medicine field.
Esateys is known for her groundbreaking work in the areas of personal empowerment and health restoration using mindset and inner connection as the catalyst for all change.
Esateys describes herself as the ‘Architect of the New You’ and has dedicated her life and professional career to helping her clients create “New Beginnings” by facilitating self empowerment, economic freedom and restored health.
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